He Makes A Difference In My Children

Anonymous: Hello, SashaMonique, I have a big problem and I hope you can help me.  I have been married for five years and I have two little girls. 

 One is nine and the other is seven years old.  The seven-year-old is very fond of my husband and he seems to really care about her.  He thinks of her as his daughter.

 The other daughter, he doesn't care for, he said she is fresh and disrespectful.  My daughter does talk back and I spoke to her regarding her attitude.  He doesn't realize, that she is just a little girl and he needs to give her a chance. 

 My ex-husband doesn't spend any time with the girls and this has been very hard on them.  What can I do SashaMonique?

SashaMoniqueTalks:  I hope I can help you.  You said that your husband really loves the seven-year-old and he probably thinks of her as a baby. 

 The nine-year-old is having a hard time sharing her family with her step-dad.  Maybe you can talk to him to reach out to get to know her more and do some father-daughter activities and tell your daughter, that she is being disrespectful and that is why the step-dad is avoiding her. 

 It would also be good if you can get in touch with your ex-husband so he can spend time with the girls.  You can also ask a reliable male, family member to act as a mentor or father figure to the girls. 

He Is Being Cheap. Should I Buy My Own Engagement Ring

Anonymous Question, Sasha, I have been dating this man for a year and he was talking about marriage on a regular basis.  He asked me whether I was ready for marriage or not and I said, Yes. 

 I love him but he took me to the jewelry stores looking for a ring and we saw many that I like.  He said, "I didn't know that they cost so much."  I said to myself "Listen to this cheapskate."  He started looking at some cheap, flimsy rings that had diamonds that look like salt.

I was upset, but, I understand that he is having some financial issues.   He dresses well and he gets things that he likes, so why is he being cheap about my ring. 

I am mad about this situation and I am ready to buy my own engagement ring because I refuse to wear an ugly, cheap ring. Don't get me wrong, I am not a gold digger but, I do like nice things.  Should I buy my own ring, Sasha?

Sashamoniquetalks,  You said that you love this man but, if he cannot afford to buy you a ring that you like, you will have to either get an affordable ring that you like or you will have to wait until this man can afford to buy you the ring of your dreams.  

I would not suggest that someone goes into debt for these kinds of purchases and I am not going to call you a gold digger.

 There are other options like Pawn shops, eBay, Mercari, Poshmark, and also Walmart.  You will be surprised about the quality rings that they sell at these places and also, down the line, you could get a more expensive ring.  

I will not suggest that you buy your own ring, but, you could tell him that you will put some money towards it.  If none of these options work for you, then maybe you should wait to get married. He may not even be in the position to marry anyone.

Does My Husband Love me?

Someone recently asked me this question and we had a long conversation. I asked her if it was okay for me to answer through my blog and she said that it was okay.

Anonymous Question:  Do my husband really love me?  I have been married for about 8 years and I am deeply in love with my husband but he is changing right before my eyes.  We have two children and I just lost a baby and it was a boy. 

 My husband wants a boy very bad because we have two girls and he spoils them but had his mind set on a little boy.

  He is starting to take me for granted and will not look me in the eye when speaking and I find this very strange.  He used to be very responsible for paying our bills but I have found numerous bills that are still due.

He doesn't hug or kiss me like he used to and our sex life is null and void.  I don't know what happened to our happy marriage.

  I am also receiving calls that hang up and I know that this could be a woman that he is seeing.  I have strange women coming up to me in the supermarket to start a conversation and they always ask whether I am married or not.

I talked to him regarding this and he said, I was crazy and that he loves me but he is stressed out and needs some space.  The kids are noticing too because they are no longer happy around their father. I don't know what to do.

Sashamoniquetalks: I am very surprised at what is going on because you two are a model couple in my eyes.  You always seemed happy and you never complained about him to me. 

 I think that when you lost the baby it caused depression in your husband.  There is something serious going on if he isn't paying the bills and you have to find out whether his hours changed on his job or whether he has a gambling problem because he has always been a responsible man.

I do believe that he still loves you and give him a little space to see if he can work these issues out.

Do I think he is cheating?  There is a strong possibility and I suggest that you start putting money to the side, to protect yourself.  

He is the breadwinner of the family and it would be good if you can get a job to help out if he is stressing over money issues. Don't entertain these women at the supermarket because they are nothing but trouble. 

 You owe no one an explanation regarding your marriage.

I am saddened by this situation and I hope you two can work it out. 

I don't want to go to the Christmas party because I don't have a date.

Anonymous Question:  Hello Sasha:  I have a Christmas party to attend but I don't feel comfortable going because I don't have a date.  All the women at my job are married or in a relationship.  I don't know what to do but cancel or not show up.

Sashamoniquetalks:  Hello:  I think that you should absolutely go to the party even though you don't have a date.  You may meet a nice gentleman  or I am sure that you will see other women by themselves.  You could even ask a male friend of yours to go or take your best girlfriend. Don't let not having a man stop you from enjoying life.  

My family doen't know how sick I am. Should I tell them?

Anonymous Question:  I have been battling Diabetes, Heart Disease, and Lupus for a little over a year.  My children have seen me sick and my husband doesn't pay attention enough to notice how sick I really am.

 I didn't tell them because I do not want them to be scared.  I am working full time but I don't know for how long.  I am having issues being intimate with my husband because of my health issues.  Should I tell them?

Sashamoniquetalks:  I don't answer questions that are health related but I had to answer this one because I am battling a lot of health issues myself and I feel that I can give you the best answer concerning this.

I was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure many years ago and at the time my daughter was 9 years old.  I didn't want to tell my family but things got so bad and I had to tell someone about it. They were and still are very helpful to me.

Please tell your family exactly what is going on because it is no disgrace to be sick.  You need the support of your family and if you do not tell them, you will fall into a deep depression.

 Your family will help you and it will make it easier to cope with your illnesses.  Let your husband know and tell your doctor that you are having trouble being intimate with your husband.  There are things that can be done to restore your intimacy.

 You do not have to deal with this alone.  Join some online support groups with people who have the same health problems that you do and it will give you hope to go on with your life. 

If you do not feel like you can continue working full-time, please let your husband know so you two can make some decisions.  There are so many programs available for people with disabilities and you could also work at home online.

Signs My Boyfriend Doesn't love Me!

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We have all dated and experienced breakups and it is never easy.  Below,  you will see some of the signs.  There are always signs but we may not recognize them.

1. He never takes me out.
2. I have never met his family or friends.
3. He calls me his friend.
4. He never buys me anything.
5. He hits me.
6. He lies to me constantly.
7. He only sees me on certain days.
8. Tells me, I am ugly.
9. He dates other people.
10. Steals from me.
11. Get another woman pregnant.
12. Makes fun of me.
13. Uses me for sex.
14. Brings another woman to my house.
15. He's married.
16. Makes me buy him things.
17. Keeps breaking up with me.
18. Not willing to marry me.
19. Hates my children.
20. Tells me he hates me and my family.

If you have answered yes to any of these answers you may be involved with a man who doesn't love or respect you.  You cannot change him and what you see is what you get.  Do not be a slave to love because you will be the one who is hurt.  Men tend to respect women who respect themselves.  

My friends husband is cheating with her best friend

Anonymous Question:  Hello Sasha:  My friend and I have been friends since we were 3 years old.  We are now 26 years old and I consider her my sister. 

 Last week I went out with another one of my friends and saw my friend's husband hugged up with our friend.  They both saw me but they didn't say anything.  I was so shocked, what should I do?


Sashamoniquetalks:  I think that you should go to your friend's husband and tell him to stop seeing that woman or you are going to tell your friend.  If that doesn't work, you have to tell your friend because you said that you consider her your sister and you don't want her to be taken advantage of. 

 If you feel that your friend won't believe you then you will have to remove yourself from the situation and be there for her when she finds out about her husband's affair

Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

                                         Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

Gentlemen, I wanted to touch on this subject because the holidays are upon us and it can be a very sad time for many men who don't have family or family they have given up. You may have had a relationship with a woman and things didn't go as planned and you have a child or children together. You may not get along with the mother or you are restricted from seeing your children but it is not an excuse to abandon your child.

We have Skype and Facetime and it makes it easier than ever to communicate with your children on a regular basis. If you are incarcerated, you can write your children letters to keep the parental relationship going. Please do not abandon your children over things the other parent is doing or not doing.

Many children of separation or Divorce are broken.  They are broken because they are silent victims of the decisions that their mother or father made. 

 I am a child of Divorce and let me tell you, I was sad most of my life because of it.  I don't blame my parents because sometimes things happen in a marriage that cannot be repaired.  One good thing, my father stayed in my life and refused to spend his life without us and it did make a difference in my life.

If you haven't seen your kids for a very long time, you can believe that one day your child will come looking for you. I think that it is never too late to reconnect with your children and if they find you, please do not reject your children. 

Life is short and you do not know why this child is looking for you.  They may be saying goodbye because of an illness or the other parent could be dying.  Give your kids a chance because they are here because of your choices.  

Be civil to your child's mom, so you can have a great relationship with your kids.  Help the mother financially to take care of your children and if you are out of work or on low-income support the other parent by babysitting the kids and picking them up from school. 

 This would help so much. There are so many things you can do to help the mother of your children and it doesn't involve a lot of money.

I hope that this post is helpful to you and if you would like to add anything, please leave a comment.

how to prevent child abuse.

I Am Secretly Eating Myself To Death

Anonymous:  I have been overweight all of my life.  Nobody sees me overeat because when they see a woman of my size they just assumes that I eat all the time, so, when out with my friends I don't eat or I eat very little. 

 I cannot lose weight because when I am home I hide snacks in my room and when I am alone I overeat.  I am so disappointed in myself.  I don't know what to do.



Sashamoniquetalks:  I understand where you are coming from because as a teen I was putting on weight and would go clothes shopping and at the time, the clothes for plus size girls were not youthful looking.   I used to hide food so I hear where you are coming from.  

What you can do is see a nutritionist who will show you how to choose healthy choices.
Join a support group where you can meet other young ladies in the same situation.
Love yourself young lady and experiment with hair and clothes and accept the pretty lady that  you are.

Once you start to feel better about yourself, it will be a lot easier to lose weight.

I Really Don't Want To Be Around Some Family Members This Year.

Anonymous Question:  Hi, Sasha, I am supposed to go to a get-together with family members in a couple of weeks but there are some people who are coming and I really don't enjoy their company. 

 One person is very loud and I cannot stand being around this person.  Another one is a drama queen and she always wants attention so she starts trouble at every dinner.  I told some of my family members that I would never go to anything that they are giving.

  My mother told me that she wants me to go and I feel obligated. I don't want to upset my mother.  What should I do?

Sashamoniquetalks, This is a tough question.  You could just stay home but it might be nice if you just go and stay about an hour or so and then leave. 

 You may even find that this year may be different and you might want to stay longer.  The truth is, families are getting smaller and smaller due to family members dying or they live in another part of the country. If you go, just be friendly to everyone and then prepare your exit.

If You Need Some Advice, Feel Free To Ask An Anonymous Question.

Hello, Ladies and Gentlemen,

If you have some questions and need some advice, please feel free to send me your questions at,
sashamoniquetalks@gmail.com.  I am not a Doctor so I am unable to give you any medical advice.  I will answer to the best of my ability.

He Is So Boring; Should I Stay With Him?

Anonymous Question,  Sashamoniquetalks, I have been in a relationship with a man for three years.  We get along fine but the problem is, I am so bored with him. 

 This man just wants to come home from work, eat and then go to bed.  I need some conversation and some affection,  This man used to be fun to be around but it is like he is sleeping his life away.  I love him but I am thinking of getting out of this relationship.  What should I do?

Sashamoniquetalks, You said that you have been in a relationship with him for three years and he was fun to be around before.  Did he start a new job or did something else change in the relationship? 

 I actually needed more details but I will tell you this much If he did change jobs or have a long commute to and from work it could be wearing on him physically.  He might really be tired.

Talk to him and see whether or not something is going on with his health because it could be.  You said that you get along fine.  The truth is, no relationship is going to be perfect. 

 If this man is supportive of you and loves you, you will have to find ways to make this relationship satisfying. Tell him how you are feeling and maybe you will need to go out with family or friends to fill this void.

If I was you, I would stay with him because it really could be worse!

How Deal With Being A Step Parent.

The Single Women's Prayer

First of all, being single is a time to enjoy yourself and find out who you really are but there is a time when a woman will get that feeling that it is time for her to get ready for marriage. 

 Marriage is wonderful if it is, shared with the right person and it was ordained by our creator. So below is a prayer that some of us single women have.

                                  The Single Women's Prayer

Dear Lord, please let me enjoy my single days and take advantage of the peace and the blessings that you gave for me to partake of quiet nights without someone snoring and hogging all the covers on the bed. 

 Thank you for the days of just jumping up and deciding at the last minute that I want to go out with family and friends and I don't have to let anyone know when I am coming back.  The Dog is by the door when I come in and happy to see me and I don't have to listen to any complaints or questions, Thank you, Jesus.

Thank you for giving me women's intuition when that fine chocolate man wanted to get my number and you softly whispered into my ear and told me, "No my daughter, he will break your heart and, he is married."  I appreciate the people that you put into my life when I needed to vent and cry about my singleness.

Lord, you protected me while I was alone and scared and you put a hedge of protection around me and my dwelling. but, Lord, now I am ready, my heart is open and willing to trust you to find the man who is willing to come together and share in the blessings that only you can give and make him a man who is after your heart dear Lord, and please make me into the beautiful wife who is patient and understanding because no man is perfect.

I promise to work on any issues that I may have and when you find him, please, whisper into my ear and let me know that he is the one chosen by you.  We will work together and grow old and I will remind my children about this prayer and teach, my daughters what prayer can do.  Thank you, Lord.

Should I Marry My Boyfriend I Met Online?

Should I Marry My Boyfriend I Met Online?



Anonymous Question:  I met a man online and we just clicked immediately.  We have been chatting for 4 months.   This is a long-distance relationship.  He asked me to marry him last night.  The problem is, we never met in person.  I want to marry him.  What should I do?



SashaMoniqueTalks:   A lot of men who date online are not really serious about relationships.  Why hasn't he come to see you?  Is this man really the person he's portraying online?  It is only 4 months, what is the rush?

I would contact one of those online companies that do background checks and I would pay to do a background check on him to see what comes up.  If everything comes back in a positive light, I would arrange for him to meet me and see where the relationship goes from there.

I would wait a year before deciding to marry him.

She Tells My Husband All Of My Personal Business.

Anonymous Question:  Hello SashaMonique, I have a friend that I have known since we were children and she always had a streak of jealousy.  I always looked over this because I considered her family.  She was over at my house about a month ago and when I stepped out of the room, she told my husband some of my secrets from the past.

 I don't know why she did this but I assume it was to cause some problems between me and my husband. I haven't called her but my husband told me everything that she said and he was upset.  Should I cut all ties with her or what?

Sashamoniquetalks:  There are a lot of women who try to pretend to be your friend and I don't understand their logic but if I was you, I would talk to her one last time to tell her that you didn't appreciate that she told your husband all of your business but I would never talk to her again because that was inappropriate and it seems like she may be interested in your husband. She really does seem like she is jealous of you.

~Karma comes calling. Don't let it fall on your doorstep~

I decided to do this post in response to the news of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are divorcing after two years of being married.  Everyone is so surprised but I really am not because of the way she got Brad Pitt.

Ladies, we have to be careful how we get a man and if possible make sure that he isn't married to someone else while dating. 

 Men lie all the time and sometimes we don't know but if you are knowingly sleeping with a man who is married, you are asking for disaster, and if you are the wife and your husband is stepping out on you; you will have to make a decision whether your marriage is worth saving.  The more you argue and fight the other women, the man will not stop cheating on you.

He likes the drama and all the attention that he is getting.  You must have an honest conversation with him and give him a warning about the outcome if he doesn't stop and be ready to stick with your decision even if it hurts to do so.

Handle this situation like a Queen, the way that Jennifer Aniston handled it.  It does not mean that you will not cry or feel like your world is falling apart but just know in your heart that karma will make an appearance and will fight your battle and the person who had an affair with your husband will remember the pain that she caused you. 

 I am also very proud of Robin Thicke's ex-wife Paula Patton and how she handled her situation. She never bashed Robin Thicke in the media but instead, she royally walked with her head held high and went on with her life.

Always remember that God said that he would fight all of our battles.

Should I Have A Baby At Age 34?

Should I Have A Baby At Age 34?

Anonymous Question;  I had a baby at fourteen years old.  I am now thirty-four years old and my boyfriend wants a baby.  I would like to have another one but I am scared about starting over again at my age.

SashaMoniqueTalks:  Hello there!  I have a very quick answer for you.  These days having a baby isn't a big deal at thirty-four.  You are still young.  If you have the time needed and your finances are together, I don't see no reason why you can't have another child.  You are in fact blessed because your child would have a much older sibling to help out.

How To Deal With A Man Who Will Not Commit.

How To Deal With A Man Who Will Not Commit

Dating is hard, very hard and most women date with the expectation that one day they will find a good man and get married.  Sometimes we come across men who will date you and may even like to be in a relationship but he isn't interested in marriage.  

The man may have all the qualities that you would like your mate to have.  You ask him whether he would like to get married one day and sometimes he will tell you that he would like too many years from now and other times, he will flat out tell you that he cannot see himself ever getting married.  What should you do?

Some of us have been in this situation and I can tell you that a man will give clues about whether he would like to be in a committed relationship or not.  He could be a person who has been single for many years and has never married or a single father who never talks about marriage or talks about it in a negative way. 

 The first thing you should do if you are a person who wants to marry one day is to ask the man and if he says that he doesn't ever want to get married, then you have to respect his wishes but you also must let him know that you would like to be married one day and tell him that you will not be able to pursue this relationship further because you cannot waste your time.

Do not try to get him to change his mind because men usually tell us the truth or show us the truth and we won't accept it because we feel that we can change his mind.  You can never change a man and what you can do is work on yourself and only date men who are equally excited about getting married one day.

If you have been with a man for a few years and he says that he will marry you someday but it is taking years, then you must break off that relationship because you are wasting your time and you could meet a man and he may marry you within a year or two. 

 Stop letting these men set dates and timelines in your life and wasting your time.  You are attractive and you have a lot to offer.  If you are firm in your decision, the right man will come along and be happy to marry you.  

My Boyfriend is sixteen years older than me.

Anonymous Question:  Hello SashaMonique,  I just turned 27 years old and I have been married but it didn't work out.  I started dating a man who is 16 years older than me and I am not really attracted to this man but he treats me well. 

I have been through a lot in my life so I decided that I will make myself happy with the person who is interested in making me happy. 

 I forgot to add that I have a five-year-old daughter by my ex.  My parents do not know yet about this man but I will tell them soon.  I live on my own so I feel that this is okay.  What are your thoughts regarding this situation?


SashaMoniqueTalks:  This is a good question.  Did you try dating men in your own age bracket before dating this man?  You stated that you have been married and it didn't work out and I think this is the reason you have decided on dating this older man. 

 Honestly, I feel that if you are happy, keep dating him and see where the relationship goes. The problem with dating someone older, you will not have a lot in common with a forty-three-year-old and the relationship will get stale very fast. 

 You said that you are not attracted to this man and you didn't say why but this could be a problem. There are older men who are dogs too so you still have to be careful.  Tell your parents, they will probably be upset but it is your life and you are grown.

Some bad boy's do get married.

I just ran across this video of Ray J  and Princess Love's wedding dance.  For many years it seemed like he couldn't be faithful and I wonder if Whitney Houston had lived, would they be married.  A man will never be perfect just like we aren't. We have to see what is in a man's heart and soul and if he is coming from a good place then you may have found your soul mate

Where do I get my questions from?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen:  I was asked by someone where I get my questions from on this blog.  The questions come from people who send questions to my email address and also people in my private life.

 If you would like for me to answer a question for you, I can answer it privately without posting it to my blog or if you are okay with me posting it, I will not reveal anything that will identify you.  I will not post any questions that are highly sensitive and I cannot give you any advice regarding your health.  Please don't ask me questions that are insulting to someone else.

Advice To Baby Mama's And The Other Woman.

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I decided to address this subject because of things I have seen women do in the past when involved with a married man.  If you find yourself doing these things please stop it and go on with your life.



What You Should Stop Doing:

1. Stop calling the wife's house asking for her husband.
2. Stop stalking your boyfriend's wife because it will not help your situation at all.  It shows just how weak you are.  You are secretly jealous of her because you want her position.
3. You get pregnant thinking that you can keep him.  He doesn't care how many babies you have.  If he wants to stay with his wife, this will not help you at all.
4. You are friends with the wife and you hang around her house every day so that you can be around her husband.  This is the sickest thing that I have seen women do.  It shows how cruel and sick you are.  She is his wife and you will never be her.  This makes you look really crazy.
5. You call and harass her on her job so she can get fired.  If you get her fired from her job, the more the husband will have to spend his money taking care of her and the family.  That means that you get nothing.
6. You send a friend request to her friends and family on Facebook.  You are so obsessed with this woman and you just want to know what she is doing at every second of the day and you want to get information from her friends.
7. You wait on her street to see her coming and going.  You keep stalking her because you know that she is a better woman than you and she is also much prettier.
8. You make love to her husband in her bed.  Lady, this shows how wicked you are and these are things that a woman without any class will do.
9. You try to find a way to be around your boyfriend's children.  This won't do you any good and it will make his children hate you in the long run.  
10. You make your boyfriend leave his wife and children and move in with you.  No matter how much you make love to this man, if he wants to be with his wife, he will be with her.  It shows what kind of person he is and it definitely tells a story of the home wrecker that you are.

Ladies, these men are out for what they can get, and if you make yourself available to be the side piece the man will never respect you and you will have to pay for all the things that you did to break up a home.  Should you get this man to leave his wife and marry you, he will never respect you and he will surely do the same thing to you or worst.

Find your own man because being a sidepiece is really nothing!

Marrying Or Dating A Stalker And An Obsessive Compulsive Man

Ladies; Please watch this video and heed the signs and the information given.  You do not have to be a victim and a punching bag.  Love doesn't hurt!  

Protect yourself and your children and do not let a man use and abuse you.  Your children are better off without living their lives in fear.    If you are in an abusive relationship or marriage it will not get any better. You can call the Domestic Violence Hotline and be on your way to a better life.  

Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

To get help online go to:
http://www.thehotline.org/

I Am In Debt Because Of My Credit Card.

Anonymous Question:  Girl, please help me!  I have been using my husband's credit card and he doesn't know that I am charging everything with that card.  I get the bill before he see's it.
Most of the things I am buying, I don't need.  I am so scared that he will find out.



SashaMoniqueTalks:  Tell your husband what you are doing and cut up that card.  It sounds like you have an addiction to shopping.  If it is possible, return some items.  

If you cannot return these items, then try to sell them on eBay and find a therapist to help you find out why you are doing this.  Buy some books by Authors who specializes in money management.

Is My Boyfriend Married?

I think this was some very good advice.  Check out a person when you start a new relationship because you can save yourself a lot of heartaches.

Relationship Advice

This is some very good advice ladies!

Should I Go Natural?

Anonymous Question: 
 I heard that you are natural but you wear wigs all the time; I would like to go natural myself but I am work in a professional environment and I would like to move up into upper management.  Are you ashamed of your hair?  I want to see what your advice is before I do the big chop.


SashaMoniqueTalks:
First and foremost, I want to thank you for asking this question.
I have been natural for five years and I also went natural another time in my life for four years.

The reason I went natural is because I have Androgenic Alopecia.
I am not ashamed of my hair at all.  If I didn't have Alopecia I would like to wear my hair in different styles and would press it sometimes to wear it straight.

The question that you asked regarding wearing natural hair in a professional environment; I would honestly have to tell you if you are trying to move into upper management, I would find a natural style that is very neat and refined. 

 If you are unable to do these styles because of hair length or other issues, hair could be added to 
make a beautiful style.  You could also go natural but wear a wig at work and wear your beautiful natural hair while you are out of work.

I also like the look of a nice, neat, short Afro.  Unfortunately, you have to fit in with the work environment to get the position that you want.

SashaMoniqueTalks Should I let my husband stay home with the kids while I work?

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Hello Ladies and Gentlemen:  This is my first post giving advice.  I hope you enjoy it and you can submit questions of your own.,

Anonymous Question:  Sashamoniquetalks  I need some advice because I work in New York City and I bring home a very good income but I get home very late and I am tired of paying nannies to watch my children. 

 I feel that I am losing the connection with my children that I once had.  My kid's ages are 3, 5, and 9.  My husband has a good job but I make a lot more money than he does.  I think it would be a good idea for my husband to stay home while I work.  Please tell me what you think.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  This is a very touchy subject because you forgot to tell me the sex of your children.  I truly feel that if your husband has a good relationship with your children and he is very attentive to their needs, he could surely stay home with your children.

 I would talk to him and see if this is something that he would like to do and be prepared if he doesn't feel comfortable with this arrangement.

 If you have girl children you must teach your husband how to do their hair and help with getting their clothes ready and tending to their hygiene. 

 Also, when a spouse stays home with the children, they sometimes lose important working years on their resume which could create problems if they decide to go back to work in the future.

This could be the perfect set-up if he works part-time from home because he will still be able to receive an income and have work experience just in case he decides at some point to go back to work.

I hope this works out for you because it is a healthier environment for your children and it will make your spouse a better father.