He Is Being Cheap. Should I Buy My Own Engagement Ring

Anonymous Question, Sasha, I have been dating this man for a year and he was talking about marriage on a regular basis.  He asked me whether I was ready for marriage or not and I said, Yes. 

 I love him but he took me to the jewelry stores looking for a ring and we saw many that I like.  He said, "I didn't know that they cost so much."  I said to myself "Listen to this cheapskate."  He started looking at some cheap, flimsy rings that had diamonds that look like salt.

I was upset, but, I understand that he is having some financial issues.   He dresses well and he gets things that he likes, so why is he being cheap about my ring. 

I am mad about this situation and I am ready to buy my own engagement ring because I refuse to wear an ugly, cheap ring. Don't get me wrong, I am not a gold digger but, I do like nice things.  Should I buy my own ring, Sasha?

Sashamoniquetalks,  You said that you love this man but, if he cannot afford to buy you a ring that you like, you will have to either get an affordable ring that you like or you will have to wait until this man can afford to buy you the ring of your dreams.  

I would not suggest that someone goes into debt for these kinds of purchases and I am not going to call you a gold digger.

 There are other options like Pawn shops, eBay, Mercari, Poshmark, and also Walmart.  You will be surprised about the quality rings that they sell at these places and also, down the line, you could get a more expensive ring.  

I will not suggest that you buy your own ring, but, you could tell him that you will put some money towards it.  If none of these options work for you, then maybe you should wait to get married. He may not even be in the position to marry anyone.