My family doen't know how sick I am. Should I tell them?

Anonymous Question:  I have been battling Diabetes, Heart Disease, and Lupus for a little over a year.  My children have seen me sick and my husband doesn't pay attention enough to notice how sick I really am.

 I didn't tell them because I do not want them to be scared.  I am working full time but I don't know for how long.  I am having issues being intimate with my husband because of my health issues.  Should I tell them?

Sashamoniquetalks:  I don't answer questions that are health related but I had to answer this one because I am battling a lot of health issues myself and I feel that I can give you the best answer concerning this.

I was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure many years ago and at the time my daughter was 9 years old.  I didn't want to tell my family but things got so bad and I had to tell someone about it. They were and still are very helpful to me.

Please tell your family exactly what is going on because it is no disgrace to be sick.  You need the support of your family and if you do not tell them, you will fall into a deep depression.

 Your family will help you and it will make it easier to cope with your illnesses.  Let your husband know and tell your doctor that you are having trouble being intimate with your husband.  There are things that can be done to restore your intimacy.

 You do not have to deal with this alone.  Join some online support groups with people who have the same health problems that you do and it will give you hope to go on with your life. 

If you do not feel like you can continue working full-time, please let your husband know so you two can make some decisions.  There are so many programs available for people with disabilities and you could also work at home online.