(Video) How To Stop Being A Doormat

Stop Being A Doormat.

Sometimes it is easier said than done but some of us have lived the lifestyle of being agreeable and taking the backseat when we should have been more present and expressed what we are really feeling.  There are people who are a doormat and don't even know that they are because this is what they have seen in their life.

This video below is very pertinent and an eye-opener and it gives insight on how to change this behavior.

Life Is Not All Flowers ( daily life problems)

Life Is Not All Flowers (daily life problems)

Life is beautiful but sometimes things can come to knock you off your feet and cause confusion and a lot of us women know that most problems fall into our plate, so to speak.

We carry such loads and burdens and people don't realize that it can be overwhelming at times.  We have to be everything to everybody and it is hard to fathom that this can take its toll on our health, mentally and physically.

The fact is, we are the ones who need the pep talk, the pat on the back, and just a listening ear. The most common daily problems can be avoided when you just put your pride down and ask for help or put some of your tasks off for another day if possible.

Don't be scared to say no to some family members who overwhelm you with their issues, you have to step back sometimes.

Turning off your phone and not taking any calls unless it is an extreme emergency is sometimes necessary to take a break and take the time to do some of the things that you love.

I love to plan shopping trips alone so I can think and just enjoy my own company.  This gives me the time to relax and even have lunch alone and I truly enjoy it.

Learn to be assertive and let people know where you are coming from to keep from making excuses and don't let people make you free bad for not helping them.

Please don't let anyone stress you out because stress can cause disease and life is too short.  Find your happy place and live your best life.

(Video) Don't Give Men Money.

Don't Give Men Money.

Ladies, there are so many men trying to get over on women and use them as their personal Bank.  So many women start this practice and in the end, they end up with bad credit and all sorts of problems.  Make this man be a man and get off his behind and contribute to you and your household and if he isn't willing to take his rightful place in your life, then you should let him go.

This same man will meet someone else and be willing to give her the world, you are worth more ladies.  It is easier than you think that it is, just say no! When you tell him no and really mean it, he will show you where he is coming from.  Either he will leave you or he will man up.

Below is a video of this knowledgeable woman giving you advice that you can really take to heart and stop being used.

Do Your Social Media Followers Have To Know Everything About You?

Do Your Social Media Followers Have To Know Everything About You?


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When you are on Social Media we tend to get more relaxed talking about ourselves and it is easy to forget about safety and things that we should not reveal on the Internet.

There are some YouTubers who have put their trust in their followers and have revealed private information about themselves in casual conversations but some of their viewers have chosen to use this info to troll them and cause chaos in their lives.

People will support you but they have itching ears and want to learn any or everything about your life and it is none of their business.

Be very careful what you reveal to the public because these are strangers who do not know you and you don't know exactly who is watching, it could be anyone and there are also people who will hate you for no reason at all.

Please do not let anyone know where you are going in your videos because a stranger could show up who doesn't like you for one reason or another and it could be a dangerous situation.

You can always go to your event and upload your video weeks later.  Be very careful who you talk to about your private business because it can come back to bite you later on.

Think very carefully before you share your spouse online because so many people like to interfere in relationships and it will be a recipe for disaster because jealous or envious people will make it their business to break up your happy home.

Never discuss personal aspects of your relationship with anyone and keep your marriage woes to yourself unless your marriage is over.

Keep your children safe online and never reveal their exact whereabouts or their school info, it is nobody's business!

Stay clear of social media cliques because there are many and they are a breeding ground for gossip and confusion.  You think they are your friends but they are not.

Being personable is very interesting and people get to know a lot about you but is it really worth the problems that it can bring?

Think about it before you reveal it? 

He Went To Jail And You Waited For Him And Now He Is Out And Cheating On You.

Ladies, I just heard about a story and the man went to jail for some years and his girlfriend waited for him the whole time he was gone.  She was his queen, so she thought, but as soon as he got out, he cheated on her.

This man took this woman's soft heart for granted because he needed her while he was in jail.  She didn't get much out of this relationship and he takes her for granted.

This lady is a sweetheart but obviously, she was looking for love in the wrong places.  Why is his life more important than hers?

This is a lesson to us all, we all have been weak and fallen short somewhere, but I want ladies to know that you have to place yourself higher than this man you are dating or in a serious relationship with.

You should love your man but he should be loving you too and be willing to sacrifice for your well-being and happiness.

Stop selling yourself short, a lot of you are doing everything and the man isn't doing anything.  The relationship should be on an equal footing.

You are afraid that if you stop doing these things, he will leave you, but if a man doesn't love you, he will leave you anyway.

If you are a doormat, he will get sick of this and the woman who will put her foot down and make him be a man, he will be absolutely crazy about this woman and do and be everything that she needs him to be.

Love Yourself First!

Why Is It Okay For Him To Cheat While In Our Marriage But I Cannot?

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Why is it okay for him to cheat while in our marriage but I cannot?

Anonymous Question: Hello, Sashamonique, I have been married for twenty-two years and my husband has been stepping out on me with other women since day one. I told him the other day that I was seeing someone but I want to try to save our marriage, he looked at me and slapped me in the face very hard.

I asked why he was so mad because he has a harem of women he dates and he said “I can do whatever the hell I want to do” he feels like he is a king and every woman should bow down and do everything that he wants them to do. I am tired of this man. The new man isn't any prize either but I feel happy when I am with him. Honestly, he is a womanizer also. Should I make my husband leave so I can be with my new man?

Sashamoniquetalks: That is a long time to be married and going through this sort of thing. Your husband has been taking you for granted and I don't even know why you are still dealing with this. I understand that marriage is not perfect but do we have to suffer in it, no! He wants to do what he wants to do and you should be accepting of his behavior, I think not.

Tell your husband that if he wants this marriage to work he better clean up his act or you are out the door. I am saying you are out the door because it doesn't sound like your husband will be the one leaving.

About this new man, you need to find out why you keep picking men who are not willing to just date you because this is a never-ending pattern of your life. The new man is fun right now because he doesn't have any responsibilities regarding you. Find your happiness elsewhere than with this new man who isn't faithful as well. You deserve better.

Listening is fundamental to your success.

Listening is fundamental to your success.

We live in a society where everyone is running around living by their own rules. They never consider other people's opinions and in the long run, they will start to run into major problems. You say that if only they would have listened their result would have been more positive.

 When you only listen to your voice or people who lack the skills to carry on an intelligent conversation or mindset, you will find that you will constantly run into a brick wall.

No one has all the answers, not even me, but there is always someone who has lived a story similar to your own and can tell you how they got through their situations.

 You do not have to agree with everything that is said but keep your heart and mind open so that you can grow and attract positive, responsible, experiences.

A closed-minded person can never grow because they feel that they have all the answers and when they fall, they will often come back to the person who was trying to help them in the beginning.

 Being prideful will not get you anywhere in this life because you will find that rules are meant to be followed, to constantly break them is truly insane.

Do not be your own worst enemy. Listening is fundamental.

Whatever Happened To Lorenzo??

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  Whatever happened to Lorenzo??

Ladies and Gentlemen, this is a true account but I have changed the names to protect the innocent. Lorenzo was a young man with dreams and aspirations, he liked nice clothes and he had a beautiful smile.

 He was a nice young man but we noticed that Lorenzo took the easy way out when it came to making his money. Lorenzo lived on the rough side of town but everybody just knew that he would make it out of the hood unscathed. He had charisma and a soft side and he attracted very beautiful and classy women.

We didn't know exactly what Lorenzo did to make his living but we knew that with the little minimum wage job that he had, he couldn't afford a lot of things that he was purchasing. His mom was a very sweet woman and he loved her and would do anything for her.

 She never questioned how he made his money. Lorenzo's dad was not around so he couldn't depend on anyone else for financial support. He took matters into his own hands and decided that he would be the man that his family needed.

So long story short, many years passed and I often wondered what happened to Lorenzo. I started doing searches online and I came across a picture of this weary man wearing rags and he was very unkempt.

Life caught up to Lorenzo and his money-making activities finally resulted in homelessness and jail time. The moral of this short story is, fast money leads to death and destruction and there is no way out of your situation than doing the right thing.

 Education plays a big part in your future and your future employment and staying on the right track is very important.

Was Lorenzo a bad person? no, he wasn't but life took its toll and he saw no way out of his situation. Life moves very fast and I wish that someone could have intervened before his life turned into the mess that it is.

 There is hope and a chance for redemption and this is just an account of how we are a product of our environment. I am hoping and praying that the next news I hear about Lorenzo will be good and he has changed his life.

If you like short stories such as this one, please comment below.