*Why are you tiptoeing around your boyfriend or your spouse?*

Why are you tiptoeing around your boyfriend or your spouse?

Ladies, I miss you all and I am glad to be back.  I wanted to touch on this subject because there are a lot of women who are dating or married to a spouse that they are really afraid of.  Speaking about this subject is very easy for me because I have been in this situation myself, and I often wondered how this all began.

Being bullied in your childhood whether it is by a kid at school or a parent who does the bullying, sets up mistrust, low self-esteem, sadness, and inner pain.  You learn that this is the way life is, so when you meet this person, they can see by your demeanor, that you are a (victim).  You did not mean for this to happen because you would never pick this type of life for yourself.

Abusive people will be nice at first and then they will size you up and see where you are weak, and they will use it against you.  They may tell you "you complain too much," or make fun of you in some kind of way.  First, you will be a little startled but you will tell yourself that it was (nothing) and you will carry on with your life.  This is the time that you should have confronted that person when it first went down like this.
You didn't trust yourself to stand up for yourself and now you are in this mess, tiptoeing around someone who you love.


How do I get out of this situation?

• Get therapy.
• learn how to say "no" right away.
• Remember that, "what  you see is what you get."
• Tell someone; that you are being controlled or abused.
• Call people out on their "BS" as soon as they bring it to you.
• Love yourself more than you love anyone.
• Leave that monster!
• Trust your instincts and avoid people who are narcissists.