A Good Relationship Is Canceled

We met at a cafe in Macon, Georgia.  He was very tall, and handsome, he was dressed nicely and he smelled so good. I was in the line and there were some flower pots and as I picked one up and started smelling them he said "hello, my name is George" and he said, "what is  your name?"  I told him that my name is Diane.  He asked me if I was married and I said no.  

George told me that he could tell that I was from somewhere else, and I proceeded to tell him that I was from Pennsylvania.  He said that he was originally from North Carolina. He then asked for my phone number and we had the best conversations. I told George that I was thinking about relocating to Georgia, and he was very excited that I would be living closer to his location.  

After one year, I moved to Georgia and our relationship really took off in the right direction.  George was kind and gentle. He was the kind of man that I always wanted.  Quiet and very easy going. We got married a year later and everything was perfect. 

 In 2011 we had our first child and then two years later, we had another. George did not want me to work outside of the home.  I told him that I would wait until the kids were in middle school and then I would return back to work. I had my own career so I really didn't want to let it go.

There was never any infidelity in our marriage until two years ago. I started to get the phone calls where someone would hang on the phone and no one would say anything. 

He started to not hold any long conversations with me. George was so distant it really started to worry me.  It seemed like I couldn't please him in no kind of way.  I notice that some of the bills were past due.  This never happened, so I thought that he could be using drugs. 

 It came out that it wasn't drugs, but it was another woman.  She actually worked at my kid's school about two blocks from my home.

This man that was perfect in every way had started to turn into a stranger.  I had to figure out what my exit plan was, and I looked into returning back to Pennsylvania or another state. 

I put a lot into my marriage and now I have to start all over again.  The moral of this story is never put your total trust and life into the hands of a person because people change. Being dependent on George was easy because he was a great provider until he started stepping out of our marriage.

George has three kids with this woman, and he is still a great father to our children. He seems so much happier now that we are no longer together.  He hasn't remarried yet but I think he will in the future. His girlfriend is very demanding and she doesn't fall for any of his bullcrap. He definitely has met his match.

I am now divorced and I have moved on.  I am also older, and I wish that I had left him earlier because when I think about it, there were very small red flags that I didn't pay attention to. He always said that he was going to his friend's house on Sunday.  Huh, the friend turned out to be his mistress.  Keep your eyes open ladies!

Sometimes a man may want out of your marriage or relationship but he will not tell you.  The ball is in your court to decide whether you want to continue to let him play you or are you going to be strong and choose you and your kids so you can move forward in your life.

* This is a short but true story. I changed the names of everyone involved and the locations to keep this person  and details anonymous.