I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced.


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Anonymous Question: Hello, SashaMonique, I went to Jamaica and stayed for two years because I love acting and singing but the market is not good in the state where I live. Many days I dreamed about living in Jamaica, it was something that I was adamant about.

The problem is, I have a husband of seven years and he is really kind and sweet but I told him that I wanted to move to Jamaica and he said that he couldn't go because he had a lot going on in his career right now and he knew that it would harder to establish himself in a career in Jamaica.

My husband told me to go and he would support me in anything that I wanted to do.  Secretly, I was hoping he would change his mind and come with me.  Never have I had a problem with my husband and we were truly in love with each other.

So, two years passed and I decided to come home and when I opened the door, I saw all sorts of letters on the floor and my husband was not there. I went next door to talk to my neighbor and he said that my husband had moved out eight months ago.

My neighbor also told me that my husband was married to someone else, I said that it couldn't be true and he assured me that it was. I did not believe that my marriage was over so I did some more checking and my neighbor was right, my husband divorced me and he did it illegally.

Now, I am in a very dark place in my life, because things did not pan out in Jamaica and I don't have a job or anything.  I am sorry for the long question but I hope that you can help me.

Sashamoniquetalks:  Hello, I am so sorry that this happened to you but I wonder whether or not your husband had a relationship going on before you left because it sounds like this could be a possibility.  Now, I am going to say this, why would you go to another country without your husband?  You took a big chance.

There is a possibility that your husband really loved you but could not deal with you being gone.  Please go and seek some legal advice to see if you can get some financial compensation such as; Alimony because he definitely did this behind your back.

Speak to some of his family members to find out all the details of why your husband married his current wife.  I cannot answer any further because this is a legal matter.

She is asking for a Divorce but I don't want one.

Anonymous Question:  I got married very young to this beautiful lady and we have been married six years.  I am very attracted to her and she is in great shape.  The problem is, that we have one child together but I have put her down many times and made fun of her about her looks.

 She looks fine but I am really jealous of her and very insecure with myself. I have slapped her on many occasions and I refuse to let her go out with her friends because I am scared she will find someone else. 

 She has filed for a Divorce but I do not want one and I am willing to change my way's.  I forgot to add that I have two kids from another relationship while married to her.  How can I get my beautiful wife back?

SashaMoniqueTalks:  You said that you got married very young and you do not want a Divorce but honestly, you did not give your wife the love and respect that she deserves.  I believe that you love her but the way you showed it, confused her.

 What you can do is call her and tell her all the things that you told me and give her space and time to see if she still want to work on her marriage.  You made a mistake by hitting her and I wouldn't suggest that any woman stays with a man who hits her. 

 You prevented her from going out with her friends while you went out and had two kids on her.  If you two get back together,  you must give her space and a chance to enjoy her life and plan some wonderful things that you know she would like.  Make her happy and never treat her like this again.  If you are truly sorry, you may get her back.

Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

                                         Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

Gentlemen, I wanted to touch on this subject because the holidays are upon us and it can be a very sad time for many men who don't have family or family they have given up. You may have had a relationship with a woman and things didn't go as planned and you have a child or children together. You may not get along with the mother or you are restricted from seeing your children but it is not an excuse to abandon your child.

We have Skype and Facetime and it makes it easier than ever to communicate with your children on a regular basis. If you are incarcerated, you can write your children letters to keep the parental relationship going. Please do not abandon your children over things the other parent is doing or not doing.

Many children of separation or Divorce are broken.  They are broken because they are silent victims of the decisions that their mother or father made. 

 I am a child of Divorce and let me tell you, I was sad most of my life because of it.  I don't blame my parents because sometimes things happen in a marriage that cannot be repaired.  One good thing, my father stayed in my life and refused to spend his life without us and it did make a difference in my life.

If you haven't seen your kids for a very long time, you can believe that one day your child will come looking for you. I think that it is never too late to reconnect with your children and if they find you, please do not reject your children. 

Life is short and you do not know why this child is looking for you.  They may be saying goodbye because of an illness or the other parent could be dying.  Give your kids a chance because they are here because of your choices.  

Be civil to your child's mom, so you can have a great relationship with your kids.  Help the mother financially to take care of your children and if you are out of work or on low-income support the other parent by babysitting the kids and picking them up from school. 

 This would help so much. There are so many things you can do to help the mother of your children and it doesn't involve a lot of money.

I hope that this post is helpful to you and if you would like to add anything, please leave a comment.