Learning How To Adjust After Being In A Bad Relationship Isn't Easy.

Ladies and Gentlemen.  I don't have any questions to answer today so I decided that I would talk on this subject about "Learning how to adjust after being in a bad relationship.

 At some point in your life, you will be met with a relationship that has never bought you any happiness and also a lot of confusion. Boy, have I been there?  It always starts the same. 

 You meet this person and he is attractive and easy to talk to so you decide to go on a date and the night, is just magical.  He wines and dines you and you two have great conversation and for a few months or more, he is the only man for you until you find out that this man has a lot of secrets.

 He hasn't been open or upfront about "Anything" that he has told you.  You asked him about his family or children and as usual, they never have children or they just have one and then later you will find out that this joker is the father of six children that he is not taking care of.

Sometimes you have invested time with this man and will let it all slide because you feel that you are in love with this man. And that is the wrong thing to do because the lies will continue.  

There are always signs such as; being always on his phone, strange calls in the middle of the night, stories that don't add up and never having any money.

It almost seems like you need a freaking college degree to find out the do's and what you should not be doing while navigating your way in a relationship. I have spoken on numerous occasions about using self-help books to see what you need to change in order to have a successful relationship.

You don't have to take a course regarding this subject unless you want to.  Knowledge is power and the more we learn, the more we know.  Educate yourself on this subject.  Here are some books that may be helpful to you.

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
How To Have A Successful Social Life: Through Better Communication and Relation
Relationship Workshop: How to have a successful relationship that lasts
The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person

He Stayed With The Other Woman On Valentines Day (Update)

Anonymous:  Hello, Sasha.  I have an update on the question that I had on Valentine's Day.  I told you that my husband stayed with the other woman on Valentine's Day and I am so happy right now because I told him that I was unhappy in my marriage and he didn't give me the respect or the attention that I needed. 

 I could not take it anymore and I asked him to move out.  I felt sad for about two weeks but Sasha, I am so relieved and I have been going out with my friends and really having a good time.  Wasn't aware of how tied down I was.  

He asked me to let him come back home and he said that he really loves me.  I flat out told his crazy behind that I will never let him come back and I am glad that he is gone. Some other opportunities have opened up for me in my career and I am happy about that.  Ten years is too long to be miserable and I got my life back.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  I am so surprised to hear back from you. So glad that you took the steps to fix this situation and happiness and contentment is very important.  That is great news about the opportunities that has opened up for you.  You are no longer tied down and you are free to live and be happy. Wishing you the best blessings and please stay in touch with me.

You Have Loved And Lost, But, Next Time It Will Be Right.

                                                Miles Jaye, I've Been A Fool For You.

I posted this video because this song just brings back so many memories.  A lot of you will remember this song from the TV show, "A Different World."  It is beautiful and heartfelt. 

 You may be going through a loss of your own and it will take a lot of strength to carry on,   Life is very uncertain but in its uncertainty, there is a lesson to be learned. 

 In a relationship, what you see is what you get.  If you are being taken for granted or cheated on, just know that there is someone who is ready and willing to be the man or woman that you need.

Don't waste your time on people who are not sure whether or not they want to be with you.  Life is short but be sure that you acknowledge the part that you played in any negativity in the relationship. 

Give yourself time to heal and then be open to love.  Love yourself and spoil yourself.  When the time is right, love will come back around, it always does.

Is She Really His Daughter? (Blind Item)

Hello, Ladies and Gentlemen,

Here is a blind item for you.

There is an entertainer who is known to be in a long marriage and he and his wife live the persona of happiness and fidelity.  They could do no wrong in my eyes; I am a big fan of theirs but, I am sad to report that this man is known for good looks and he has a real "distinctive look".  

I have always heard rumors about him which I will not get into right now.  Has a secret daughter.  Now I don't know if he ever claimed this daughter and I have to add that he is African American and she is supposedly bi-racial although she doesn't appear to be so at all.

She doesn't look like him at all and he has other kids and they look just like him.  This lady is very beautiful and she is over forty-years-old.  She is very poverty stricken and if it is true that she is his daughter, then this is really sad that she has to live this way.  

In all honesty, I believe that this star should take a DNA test because of his "distinctive looks" she should have some identifiable features relating to his.

There are a lot of scammers looking to get the piece of the pie, so to speak.  DNA test was not available when she was born but it can definitely rule out the paternity of this so-called daughter.

If she was found to be his daughter, then she should benefit from her father's fortune.

My friends husband is cheating with her best friend

Anonymous Question:  Hello Sasha:  My friend and I have been friends since we were 3 years old.  We are now 26 years old and I consider her my sister. 

 Last week I went out with another one of my friends and saw my friend's husband hugged up with our friend.  They both saw me but they didn't say anything.  I was so shocked, what should I do?


Sashamoniquetalks:  I think that you should go to your friend's husband and tell him to stop seeing that woman or you are going to tell your friend.  If that doesn't work, you have to tell your friend because you said that you consider her your sister and you don't want her to be taken advantage of. 

 If you feel that your friend won't believe you then you will have to remove yourself from the situation and be there for her when she finds out about her husband's affair

Advice To Baby Mama's And The Other Woman.

Image Courtesy Pixabay.

I decided to address this subject because of things I have seen women do in the past when involved with a married man.  If you find yourself doing these things please stop it and go on with your life.



What You Should Stop Doing:

1. Stop calling the wife's house asking for her husband.
2. Stop stalking your boyfriend's wife because it will not help your situation at all.  It shows just how weak you are.  You are secretly jealous of her because you want her position.
3. You get pregnant thinking that you can keep him.  He doesn't care how many babies you have.  If he wants to stay with his wife, this will not help you at all.
4. You are friends with the wife and you hang around her house every day so that you can be around her husband.  This is the sickest thing that I have seen women do.  It shows how cruel and sick you are.  She is his wife and you will never be her.  This makes you look really crazy.
5. You call and harass her on her job so she can get fired.  If you get her fired from her job, the more the husband will have to spend his money taking care of her and the family.  That means that you get nothing.
6. You send a friend request to her friends and family on Facebook.  You are so obsessed with this woman and you just want to know what she is doing at every second of the day and you want to get information from her friends.
7. You wait on her street to see her coming and going.  You keep stalking her because you know that she is a better woman than you and she is also much prettier.
8. You make love to her husband in her bed.  Lady, this shows how wicked you are and these are things that a woman without any class will do.
9. You try to find a way to be around your boyfriend's children.  This won't do you any good and it will make his children hate you in the long run.  
10. You make your boyfriend leave his wife and children and move in with you.  No matter how much you make love to this man, if he wants to be with his wife, he will be with her.  It shows what kind of person he is and it definitely tells a story of the home wrecker that you are.

Ladies, these men are out for what they can get, and if you make yourself available to be the side piece the man will never respect you and you will have to pay for all the things that you did to break up a home.  Should you get this man to leave his wife and marry you, he will never respect you and he will surely do the same thing to you or worst.

Find your own man because being a sidepiece is really nothing!