He is starting a business with my female friend.

Anonymous Question:  Sasha, I am married to a man who I have known since Grammar school and we have always been close.  He told me the other day since my female friend has a lot of experience in business, he wants to open a business with her. I told him that I want to be a part of the business also and he told me that I don't know anything.

 My husband doesn't usually talk to me like this and I feel like something is going on between the two.  I talk to my friend and she said that she didn't ask to be a part of the business but he figured, she knew all the ins and outs of running a business. I would rather for him to conduct business with a man who is knowledgeable in business instead.  Do you think I am acting silly Sasha?


SashaMoniqueTalks:  There is a possibility that he is really trying to find the right person for the job but he should consider your feelings.  Talk to him again regarding this matter and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with the arrangement. 

 Talk to your friend and tell her that you don't want her to be a part of the arrangement and see what she say's.  Your husband should find a happy medium with someone else who have the same amount of experience because it is not a good idea to start a business with friends because you may have some problems later. 

if I were your friend I would not enter into this arrangement. And no, I don't think you are acting silly.  Please keep in contact with me and let me know what is going on and I will try to assist you further.

How Did I Lose Myself?

                                                   How Did I Lose Myself!


Anonymous Question:  I have been married for two years and I love my husband very much.  I stay at home because my husband does not want me to work at this time.  We do not have any children.  I explained to my husband that I want to start a small business and he got all upset about it. 

We only go places he wants to go and do things he wants to do; it is never about me.  I am bored and depressed. How did I lose myself SashaMonique?

SashaMoniqueTalks:  You said that you love your husband and you didn't say that he is mistreating you.  Sit your husband down and talk to him about this in a calm matter.  

Tell him that you want to make your own money and save it for a goal that you want to accomplish.  Let him know that you want to enjoy some outings with your friends or family and if you are uneducated, start taking courses even if it is online.  

You have a right to work or start a business if you want to. You don't have any children so it isn't any reason you cannot have a job if that is what you want.  A marriage is a partnership and it isn't all about one person. 

He Makes A Difference In My Children

Anonymous: Hello, SashaMonique, I have a big problem and I hope you can help me.  I have been married for five years and I have two little girls. 

 One is nine and the other is seven years old.  The seven-year-old is very fond of my husband and he seems to really care about her.  He thinks of her as his daughter.

 The other daughter, he doesn't care for, he said she is fresh and disrespectful.  My daughter does talk back and I spoke to her regarding her attitude.  He doesn't realize, that she is just a little girl and he needs to give her a chance. 

 My ex-husband doesn't spend any time with the girls and this has been very hard on them.  What can I do SashaMonique?

SashaMoniqueTalks:  I hope I can help you.  You said that your husband really loves the seven-year-old and he probably thinks of her as a baby. 

 The nine-year-old is having a hard time sharing her family with her step-dad.  Maybe you can talk to him to reach out to get to know her more and do some father-daughter activities and tell your daughter, that she is being disrespectful and that is why the step-dad is avoiding her. 

 It would also be good if you can get in touch with your ex-husband so he can spend time with the girls.  You can also ask a reliable male, family member to act as a mentor or father figure to the girls. 

Does My Husband Love me?

Someone recently asked me this question and we had a long conversation. I asked her if it was okay for me to answer through my blog and she said that it was okay.

Anonymous Question:  Do my husband really love me?  I have been married for about 8 years and I am deeply in love with my husband but he is changing right before my eyes.  We have two children and I just lost a baby and it was a boy. 

 My husband wants a boy very bad because we have two girls and he spoils them but had his mind set on a little boy.

  He is starting to take me for granted and will not look me in the eye when speaking and I find this very strange.  He used to be very responsible for paying our bills but I have found numerous bills that are still due.

He doesn't hug or kiss me like he used to and our sex life is null and void.  I don't know what happened to our happy marriage.

  I am also receiving calls that hang up and I know that this could be a woman that he is seeing.  I have strange women coming up to me in the supermarket to start a conversation and they always ask whether I am married or not.

I talked to him regarding this and he said, I was crazy and that he loves me but he is stressed out and needs some space.  The kids are noticing too because they are no longer happy around their father. I don't know what to do.

Sashamoniquetalks: I am very surprised at what is going on because you two are a model couple in my eyes.  You always seemed happy and you never complained about him to me. 

 I think that when you lost the baby it caused depression in your husband.  There is something serious going on if he isn't paying the bills and you have to find out whether his hours changed on his job or whether he has a gambling problem because he has always been a responsible man.

I do believe that he still loves you and give him a little space to see if he can work these issues out.

Do I think he is cheating?  There is a strong possibility and I suggest that you start putting money to the side, to protect yourself.  

He is the breadwinner of the family and it would be good if you can get a job to help out if he is stressing over money issues. Don't entertain these women at the supermarket because they are nothing but trouble. 

 You owe no one an explanation regarding your marriage.

I am saddened by this situation and I hope you two can work it out. 

The Single Women's Prayer

First of all, being single is a time to enjoy yourself and find out who you really are but there is a time when a woman will get that feeling that it is time for her to get ready for marriage. 

 Marriage is wonderful if it is, shared with the right person and it was ordained by our creator. So below is a prayer that some of us single women have.

                                  The Single Women's Prayer

Dear Lord, please let me enjoy my single days and take advantage of the peace and the blessings that you gave for me to partake of quiet nights without someone snoring and hogging all the covers on the bed. 

 Thank you for the days of just jumping up and deciding at the last minute that I want to go out with family and friends and I don't have to let anyone know when I am coming back.  The Dog is by the door when I come in and happy to see me and I don't have to listen to any complaints or questions, Thank you, Jesus.

Thank you for giving me women's intuition when that fine chocolate man wanted to get my number and you softly whispered into my ear and told me, "No my daughter, he will break your heart and, he is married."  I appreciate the people that you put into my life when I needed to vent and cry about my singleness.

Lord, you protected me while I was alone and scared and you put a hedge of protection around me and my dwelling. but, Lord, now I am ready, my heart is open and willing to trust you to find the man who is willing to come together and share in the blessings that only you can give and make him a man who is after your heart dear Lord, and please make me into the beautiful wife who is patient and understanding because no man is perfect.

I promise to work on any issues that I may have and when you find him, please, whisper into my ear and let me know that he is the one chosen by you.  We will work together and grow old and I will remind my children about this prayer and teach, my daughters what prayer can do.  Thank you, Lord.