Grandpa Wasn't Here But Now He's Here.

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He was tall, dark, and handsome.  He had the gift of gab that could curl any girls toes. His wife was kind and gentle.

 He was a father of many but barely around.  His little boys cried every night because he was in and out and more out than in and they felt rejection at every turn.

  A real father he wasn't. One of his kids was very hardworking and his father was too proud to show his child love.  A pat on the back or a gentle hug was badly needed

Years passed and grandchildren were born.  Mr. PaPa was proud and larger than life.  His grandchildren were his world as his son grimaced when PaPa showed the grandchildren love that he didn't have.

   I guess PaPa thought it was a way of making up to his children if he showed the grandchildren love but that child that just wanted his father to pick him up or tell him that he loved him still needed the love and care that was missing.

This is a lesson to anyone.  Love your children because you can never get the precious day's that were stolen from them

.  You cannot love your kids through the grandchildren because this is unfair and a hug and an apology is all that is needed. It is never too late to do better.  Show love and it will be returned a thousand times.

Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

                                         Fathers, Please Don't Abandon Your Children

Gentlemen, I wanted to touch on this subject because the holidays are upon us and it can be a very sad time for many men who don't have family or family they have given up. You may have had a relationship with a woman and things didn't go as planned and you have a child or children together. You may not get along with the mother or you are restricted from seeing your children but it is not an excuse to abandon your child.

We have Skype and Facetime and it makes it easier than ever to communicate with your children on a regular basis. If you are incarcerated, you can write your children letters to keep the parental relationship going. Please do not abandon your children over things the other parent is doing or not doing.

Many children of separation or Divorce are broken.  They are broken because they are silent victims of the decisions that their mother or father made. 

 I am a child of Divorce and let me tell you, I was sad most of my life because of it.  I don't blame my parents because sometimes things happen in a marriage that cannot be repaired.  One good thing, my father stayed in my life and refused to spend his life without us and it did make a difference in my life.

If you haven't seen your kids for a very long time, you can believe that one day your child will come looking for you. I think that it is never too late to reconnect with your children and if they find you, please do not reject your children. 

Life is short and you do not know why this child is looking for you.  They may be saying goodbye because of an illness or the other parent could be dying.  Give your kids a chance because they are here because of your choices.  

Be civil to your child's mom, so you can have a great relationship with your kids.  Help the mother financially to take care of your children and if you are out of work or on low-income support the other parent by babysitting the kids and picking them up from school. 

 This would help so much. There are so many things you can do to help the mother of your children and it doesn't involve a lot of money.

I hope that this post is helpful to you and if you would like to add anything, please leave a comment.

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SashaMoniqueTalks Should I let my husband stay home with the kids while I work?

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Hello Ladies and Gentlemen:  This is my first post giving advice.  I hope you enjoy it and you can submit questions of your own.,

Anonymous Question:  Sashamoniquetalks  I need some advice because I work in New York City and I bring home a very good income but I get home very late and I am tired of paying nannies to watch my children. 

 I feel that I am losing the connection with my children that I once had.  My kid's ages are 3, 5, and 9.  My husband has a good job but I make a lot more money than he does.  I think it would be a good idea for my husband to stay home while I work.  Please tell me what you think.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  This is a very touchy subject because you forgot to tell me the sex of your children.  I truly feel that if your husband has a good relationship with your children and he is very attentive to their needs, he could surely stay home with your children.

 I would talk to him and see if this is something that he would like to do and be prepared if he doesn't feel comfortable with this arrangement.

 If you have girl children you must teach your husband how to do their hair and help with getting their clothes ready and tending to their hygiene. 

 Also, when a spouse stays home with the children, they sometimes lose important working years on their resume which could create problems if they decide to go back to work in the future.

This could be the perfect set-up if he works part-time from home because he will still be able to receive an income and have work experience just in case he decides at some point to go back to work.

I hope this works out for you because it is a healthier environment for your children and it will make your spouse a better father.