Are You Feeling Like Damaged Goods?

Are You Feeling Like Damaged Goods?




Many times we have gone through life and think that we have made great strides and we have but, there are some places deep within where we are still broken.

You may have been very successful in your career and then all of a sudden, you are fired from your dream job, and you think of all the things that you have failed in your life. These feelings contribute to us being stuck in a holding pattern and you may be scared to try again and persevere.

It comes from brokenness from your childhood, or even from a spouse who treated you less than kind.  A broken marriage sometimes will signal your subconscious to inform you that you can never be happy, or if you try again, you will never succeed.

You don't realize that whatever you have gone through, you made it through, so that means that you overcame.  That is proof that you don't give up.

The older we get, we sometimes feel like damaged goods because so much time has passed and we feel like there is not enough time left to do the things that we would like to do.

I have been through so many obstacles in life and yes, at times I have those feelings of failure but, I have learned to get right back out there and continue to try again.

Never be envious of someone you think is more successful in life because you don't know their obstacles or their downfalls.  It may even be some negative things coming in their future and you don't know what they are dealing with.  They may be broken as well, but they know how to hide it.

To overcome obstacles means putting yourself out there which means that you can get hurt again but you will never know unless you try.

To truly be happy, you have to be determined to be happy and kind to everyone, because you will draw happy like-minded people into your life.

If you are living with an illness find someone else who is living with an illness as well, to find support but also to support others.

Spend a lot of time with animals and nature because it is very fulfilling.

Know that you will always be able to find another job so don't let a loss of a job get to you. Teach others the skills that you have and share your knowledge freely.

Forgive people who have hurt you but do not allow that same person the opportunity to hurt and damage you again.

People who are on a positive path in life are the ones you can draw happiness and blessings from.

If you notice all your friends are negative and really don't care for you, find a totally different type of friend to allow into your life because you usually draw what you are used to and is familiar to you.

Defeat generational curses and habits that only lead to failure because you don't have to live anyone else story, live your own.

Live and breath success and it will be yours!

Listening is fundamental to your success.

Listening is fundamental to your success.

We live in a society where everyone is running around living by their own rules. They never consider other people's opinions and in the long run, they will start to run into major problems. You say that if only they would have listened their result would have been more positive.

 When you only listen to your voice or people who lack the skills to carry on an intelligent conversation or mindset, you will find that you will constantly run into a brick wall.

No one has all the answers, not even me, but there is always someone who has lived a story similar to your own and can tell you how they got through their situations.

 You do not have to agree with everything that is said but keep your heart and mind open so that you can grow and attract positive, responsible, experiences.

A closed-minded person can never grow because they feel that they have all the answers and when they fall, they will often come back to the person who was trying to help them in the beginning.

 Being prideful will not get you anywhere in this life because you will find that rules are meant to be followed, to constantly break them is truly insane.

Do not be your own worst enemy. Listening is fundamental.

Are You Living In Confusion?? (Lessons Learned)

Have you been in that place in your life where you have just sat down and reminisced about your past and the events that took place that may have contributed to you having your moment of enlightenment that made you get up and make changes that have made you into the person that you are today?

 I had that moment today and step by step I felt joy and the power that we as women hold if we just listen to our intuition and our heart.

Life is full of lessons that must be learned and I often think about what could have happened in my life if I didn't take the necessary steps and the faith to push me to make changes.

 With every change in my life, there were rivers of tears, but as the tears fell I still made the change that led to freedom.  Freedom to change my course of destiny.  Freedom to not be held back and held up with someone else insecurity and freedom to love me.

To anyone going through difficult changes right now, the change is in your heart, it is in your mouth to speak greatness, it is in your steps to move you.  Don't be afraid because God will hold your hand while you are making your move, he is telling you and showing you that he got you and just want your trust and faith.

 Below is a video of a song that I love and have been very helpful to me throughout my life and I hope that it will be helpful to you.  The message is clear and the song is beautiful.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

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Hello, everyone.  This is not a question and answers session but something that has happened in my personal life at one time or another.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

I was involved with this man many, many, years ago.  He was very self-centered and was only looking for a way to advance his dreams by using women.  He was very attractive and he knew it. 

 He played the game of pretending to be in love with me to accomplish everything that he wanted.  His caresses and his tender kisses were something out of this world.

After a while, I caught on to his schemes and I was finished with him.  For some reason he felt that after all, I had been through, he had a right to try to re-enter my life.

  He didn't realize that this lady had in fact moved on and no longer had feelings to give him a chance.  He didn't have sense enough to have enough pride to not approach me again.

The moral of this story is, never let anyone take you for granted.  If you hurt me once, you will hurt me again.  I don't owe you even a conversation with your sob story of how your life didn't turn out the way you expected.

  Hold your head up high and quickly say no to his advances and keep it moving because you know that he hasn't changed and if he did, let him be a better person for somebody else.  

Sometimes it isn't worth it to give second chances.  Guarding your heart is one of the best gifts that God will give you if you will just listen to him and follow his leading you will have a better result.

Intuition is there for a reason and if you had listened before, you would not be carrying this scar to your heart and your soul. 

 So, his life is in shambles, it is not your fault or your problem.

Let him straighten his own mess and he will be a better person for it.

He Wants Me But He Doesn't Want Our Child.

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Anonymous Question:  Hello, Ms. Sasha.  I have been on and off with this man for about seven years and we have a five-year-old.

 He will not have anything to do with my child during our off periods.  Looking for excuses to find every opportunity to see me; he also spies on me coming and going from my home.


  I have no idea what he is looking for or waiting to see.  He can be very sweet and then other times he will turn on me.

  We have an only child and when he is in my life, he treats her very well but when we break up, he treats her like a stepchild and I am so tired of him and his immaturity.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  I am going to come on out and say that this is a very strange relationship because he is trying his best to control you and he is acting immature with your child.

  She has a right to be loved by both parents without conditions.  She is an innocent party in this whole situation.

 He chooses to spy on you because he is jealous and he knows that he isn't acting as he should.  Think about the negative message this is sending your little girl, that it is alright to not contribute one hundred percent to your family and she may choose a man in the future who will not be committed to her or her children and that is a bad message to give a child.

  She will also deal with feelings of rejection.  I cannot tell you what to do in your relationship but it sounds like you are really tired of the way it is going.

 Tell him how you feel and if he isn't willing to change, then it may be time for you to walk away for good.