You Put Your All Into Your Marriage And He Let You Down, What Should You Do Now?

You put your all into your marriage and he let you down, What should you do now?




You thought you found the perfect guy and right away you two clicked.  He was not so tall but he was very handsome.  All your conversations with your girlfriends were about him. They actually got tired of hearing his name over and over.

You thought that they were jealous, but they actually thought all along this guy wasn't for you.  So, you continued to date and he asked for your hand in marriage. You were the happiest that you have ever been in your life.

Fast forward four years and you now have two small children.  He never wanted you to go back to work because he didn't want anyone else raising his children so you made the sacrifice to honor his request to be a full-time stay-at-home mom.

For about two years you started to see signs that he was stressed out and he was seeing another woman but you hung in there to try to make your marriage work but now he totally wants out of the marriage.  What should you do?




You and your spouse are the only ones who know whether your marriage is over but I would tell you to not spend too much time trying to make a marriage work that is dead.  Talk to a Lawyer if you think a Divorce is on the horizon.

Your spouse is legally required to take care of your children financially and for you to help you get on your feet and back to work.

Think about going back to school to refresh your skills and make yourself marketable.  Volunteering is also a great way to acquire some experience while you are trying to get back into the workforce.  Keep moving forward and you will be okay.

Why Is It Okay For Him To Cheat While In Our Marriage But I Cannot?

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Why is it okay for him to cheat while in our marriage but I cannot?

Anonymous Question: Hello, Sashamonique, I have been married for twenty-two years and my husband has been stepping out on me with other women since day one. I told him the other day that I was seeing someone but I want to try to save our marriage, he looked at me and slapped me in the face very hard.

I asked why he was so mad because he has a harem of women he dates and he said “I can do whatever the hell I want to do” he feels like he is a king and every woman should bow down and do everything that he wants them to do. I am tired of this man. The new man isn't any prize either but I feel happy when I am with him. Honestly, he is a womanizer also. Should I make my husband leave so I can be with my new man?

Sashamoniquetalks: That is a long time to be married and going through this sort of thing. Your husband has been taking you for granted and I don't even know why you are still dealing with this. I understand that marriage is not perfect but do we have to suffer in it, no! He wants to do what he wants to do and you should be accepting of his behavior, I think not.

Tell your husband that if he wants this marriage to work he better clean up his act or you are out the door. I am saying you are out the door because it doesn't sound like your husband will be the one leaving.

About this new man, you need to find out why you keep picking men who are not willing to just date you because this is a never-ending pattern of your life. The new man is fun right now because he doesn't have any responsibilities regarding you. Find your happiness elsewhere than with this new man who isn't faithful as well. You deserve better.

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced.


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Anonymous Question: Hello, SashaMonique, I went to Jamaica and stayed for two years because I love acting and singing but the market is not good in the state where I live. Many days I dreamed about living in Jamaica, it was something that I was adamant about.

The problem is, I have a husband of seven years and he is really kind and sweet but I told him that I wanted to move to Jamaica and he said that he couldn't go because he had a lot going on in his career right now and he knew that it would harder to establish himself in a career in Jamaica.

My husband told me to go and he would support me in anything that I wanted to do.  Secretly, I was hoping he would change his mind and come with me.  Never have I had a problem with my husband and we were truly in love with each other.

So, two years passed and I decided to come home and when I opened the door, I saw all sorts of letters on the floor and my husband was not there. I went next door to talk to my neighbor and he said that my husband had moved out eight months ago.

My neighbor also told me that my husband was married to someone else, I said that it couldn't be true and he assured me that it was. I did not believe that my marriage was over so I did some more checking and my neighbor was right, my husband divorced me and he did it illegally.

Now, I am in a very dark place in my life, because things did not pan out in Jamaica and I don't have a job or anything.  I am sorry for the long question but I hope that you can help me.

Sashamoniquetalks:  Hello, I am so sorry that this happened to you but I wonder whether or not your husband had a relationship going on before you left because it sounds like this could be a possibility.  Now, I am going to say this, why would you go to another country without your husband?  You took a big chance.

There is a possibility that your husband really loved you but could not deal with you being gone.  Please go and seek some legal advice to see if you can get some financial compensation such as; Alimony because he definitely did this behind your back.

Speak to some of his family members to find out all the details of why your husband married his current wife.  I cannot answer any further because this is a legal matter.

Where Do I Fit In The Dating World As An Older Woman?

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Anonymous Question: SashaMonique I am 45 years old and although I take good care of myself, I watch my weight and I dress very fashionable.  I have been told that I look very young for my age and I am not tooting my own horn, but I am very attractive.

 I want to know, where do I fit, in the dating world as an older woman?  I have been single for about 2 years and would like to be in a long-term relationship.  Have gone on a few dates and I am not attracting the type of man I would like in my life.  I have 2 kids and they both are grown and I just want to be in love once again.  

SashaMoniqueTalks:  I am glad that you contacted me because I truly understand your situation because I am an older woman and I have to say that dating is very difficult at this age because a lot of men want to date a young woman.  

There are some men who would love a more mature woman and you would have to go to some events where good, quality men are.  Finding love is never impossible and you didn't say what your hobbies are but find an event where it has men who have the same interest that you have, this could be outings to the movie theater and there are some websites geared to group outings that would make meeting men safer.

  Some years ago I went to an event on a ship and I found it very easy to strike up a conversation and meet single men and there wasn't a lot of pressure on either party. If you are meeting men that you are not attracted to, do not give them your number.

 See if any of your family members have friends that you can be introduced to.  Find out about outings your local church may be going on and go and enjoy yourself.  It is not too late, all you have to do is weed out the undesirables.