You Put Your All Into Your Marriage And He Let You Down, What Should You Do Now?

You put your all into your marriage and he let you down, What should you do now?




You thought you found the perfect guy and right away you two clicked.  He was not so tall but he was very handsome.  All your conversations with your girlfriends were about him. They actually got tired of hearing his name over and over.

You thought that they were jealous, but they actually thought all along this guy wasn't for you.  So, you continued to date and he asked for your hand in marriage. You were the happiest that you have ever been in your life.

Fast forward four years and you now have two small children.  He never wanted you to go back to work because he didn't want anyone else raising his children so you made the sacrifice to honor his request to be a full-time stay-at-home mom.

For about two years you started to see signs that he was stressed out and he was seeing another woman but you hung in there to try to make your marriage work but now he totally wants out of the marriage.  What should you do?




You and your spouse are the only ones who know whether your marriage is over but I would tell you to not spend too much time trying to make a marriage work that is dead.  Talk to a Lawyer if you think a Divorce is on the horizon.

Your spouse is legally required to take care of your children financially and for you to help you get on your feet and back to work.

Think about going back to school to refresh your skills and make yourself marketable.  Volunteering is also a great way to acquire some experience while you are trying to get back into the workforce.  Keep moving forward and you will be okay.

Top Five Ways To Date Yourself.

Top five ways to date yourself.


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When you are not in a relationship it is easy to sit around and mope.  A lot of times you will not take care of yourself and your appearance.  Not being in a relationship doesn't mean that you just give up on life.


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There are many ways to date yourself, to make you feel special and loved.  Sometimes people notice when you do not treat yourself well and they view you as unattractive. Make it a point to date yourself because you will draw more quality people into your life.

So here are the top five ways to date yourself!

1. Go to a fabulous restaurant and order whatever you want and sit there and savor every bite.
2. Take yourself on a trip alone and meet people and treat yourself to the best massages around and pamper yourself.
3. Take a relaxing bath and put on your favorite music, get out and put on the prettiest nightgown that you own and eat some quality chocolates and watch  ("Breakfast At Tiffany's.)
4. Order a beautiful necklace or ring and use it as your statement piece.
5. Go get your hair, nails, and feet done, and then go to a photoshoot and take your best picture.

Learn how to be happy with yourself and you will enjoy yourself with or without a mate.

(Video) Don't Give Men Money.

Don't Give Men Money.

Ladies, there are so many men trying to get over on women and use them as their personal Bank.  So many women start this practice and in the end, they end up with bad credit and all sorts of problems.  Make this man be a man and get off his behind and contribute to you and your household and if he isn't willing to take his rightful place in your life, then you should let him go.

This same man will meet someone else and be willing to give her the world, you are worth more ladies.  It is easier than you think that it is, just say no! When you tell him no and really mean it, he will show you where he is coming from.  Either he will leave you or he will man up.

Below is a video of this knowledgeable woman giving you advice that you can really take to heart and stop being used.

Elderly And Middle- Aged Women Be Honest With Yourself (Catfish)

Elderly And Middle-Aged Women Be Honest With Yourself (Catfish)


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Disclaimer, you are not going to like what I am going to say, so if this offends you, I am sorry.

I am watching Dr. Phil right now screaming at the television. So so tired of seeing elderly women meeting guys on the internet and getting catfished.

  You can not blame anybody but yourself.  You have to be honest with yourself, the truth is, men are not really interested in middle-aged and elderly women, not in no real relationship.

Eventually, you find out that this man is a fraud or never existed, you send all your money to a man because you believe that this man is in love with you; you have never seen this man for crying out loud!

I am not saying that an older woman cannot find someone to date in her real-life but if you are looking to get married, you are sadly mistaken. This lady that I am watching today lost a lot of money and you cannot get it in these lady's heads that this man is not going to be with them.

What is wrong going to events where available elderly men are also looking to form friendships with available older women?  Nothing wrong with it at all!  When I go to my local mall I see elderly people meeting and they bring a single friend to meet elderly gentlemen.

This is a nice way to socialize with other people. I see really beautiful looking older women every single day but a man don't care if you are a nice looking older woman, they don't want old women point, blank, period.

I am middle-aged myself and I refuse to be an old fool.  Please watch these catfish shows so you can learn the signs ladies.  Protect yourself and listen to your family because they are just trying to protect you because they love you.

I Want To Get Married And I Want A Beautiful Ring!

Hello, Ladies. I had a conversation a few years ago with an acquaintance of mine and I am sure that she is okay with me sharing this.  She is forty plus and she has never been married.  She is a wonderful, God-fearing, and respectable lady, and she would be the perfect catch for any man.  She has dated some men and she knows exactly what she wants.

She asked me why I wear rings and who bought them and I told her that some were bought by other people and some were bought by me.  She then asked me why I would buy my own and I told her that, at my age, I cannot wait for someone to give me the gifts that I can give myself.

I have been married, so I was quite alarmed that she even asked me this question but I know that she was just asking a question.  She then said that she was waiting for the big, beautiful, diamond ring that would come when the right guy finds her and asked for her hand in marriage.

She then asked me why I don't just wear the rings on my right hand and I told her that, at my age, it doesn't really matter what hand I used to display my rings.

I am going to keep it real here and say that a lot of us are waiting for a dream that may not come true.
If you are forty years old and over, you should just buy the beautiful things that you want to wear and that fantastic diamond ring that you love and enjoy it.  The man of your dreams will still come if it is meant to be, even if you are wearing diamonds.

Some of us ladies are separated or divorced and we may not even be looking for another relationship but I want you ladies to keep looking good for yourself and spoil yourself if it is within your means.

A statement ring, bracelet, or necklace doesn't have to be expensive.  Never put your happiness on hold because you are waiting for love.  Live now, because tomorrow isn't promised.

Put some money aside and buy that big beautiful ring that you want and wear it with pride.  Love yourself because nobody is going to love you more.

He Stayed With The Other Woman On Valentines Day (Update)

Anonymous:  Hello, Sasha.  I have an update on the question that I had on Valentine's Day.  I told you that my husband stayed with the other woman on Valentine's Day and I am so happy right now because I told him that I was unhappy in my marriage and he didn't give me the respect or the attention that I needed. 

 I could not take it anymore and I asked him to move out.  I felt sad for about two weeks but Sasha, I am so relieved and I have been going out with my friends and really having a good time.  Wasn't aware of how tied down I was.  

He asked me to let him come back home and he said that he really loves me.  I flat out told his crazy behind that I will never let him come back and I am glad that he is gone. Some other opportunities have opened up for me in my career and I am happy about that.  Ten years is too long to be miserable and I got my life back.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  I am so surprised to hear back from you. So glad that you took the steps to fix this situation and happiness and contentment is very important.  That is great news about the opportunities that has opened up for you.  You are no longer tied down and you are free to live and be happy. Wishing you the best blessings and please stay in touch with me.