Check Out A Man Before You Date Him.

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Ladies, last night I was looking at a website regarding sex offenders, and would you believe, I saw many people that I have seen while shopping and people I  have gone to school with.  There were even men in their 80's on this website.  The website is: http://www.sexoffendersarchive.com/

and you can search using your zip code.  

We have to be very careful when dating and when even having family members around your children.  Most of the men on this site were boyfriends who offended their girlfriend's kids and also men who were left babysitting kids.  You cannot be too careful and I urge you ladies to take your time and check and see if the man you are thinking of dating, is on this website.

Some of us are letting men live with us and having them around our children too fast.  If you care anything about your children, you will stop this practice. Make sure this man is safe to be around children and also whether he has violent tendencies because many women have lost their kids to murder also.

Never sacrifice your children to be with a predator!

The Traits Of A Stalker.

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Stalkers are among us, you guys, they don't always look like the creepy man or woman who is very unattractive and strange acting, in fact, some of them look like the boy or girl next door and they can be very normal and quite attractive.  However, most of them exhibit the same traits and it is very important to learn what these traits are.

 They are very clingy and they want to track your every move.  They spy on you when you least expect it, and they will make your life a living hell.  Below are some videos regarding this subject so you can familiarize yourself with all the things to look for in an unstable lover.

Do not take stalking lightly.  If you are being stalked, please contact the local police authorities as soon as possible and file a police report.

Is Social Media The Devil?

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When we think of the Devil we think of the sneaky ugly figure like the one who is in the above picture but we never take into consideration that he is sneaking into some of our social media activities.  Heavily involvement in social media can cause you to feel a certain way about somebody and it can bring out the worst in all participants.  

Sometimes it is good to pull away from your social media accounts and have real conversations with the people in your life.  Social Media can be used for good but I see the Devil rearing his ugly head on almost a daily basis.  There are people lying, causing trouble, or showing off and you know the real story about their life but they want their situation to appear more fabulous than it is.

There is so much cheating and gossiping going on and if you are not involved in these types of things, sooner or later you will be.  I love social media but I will be pulling back some because it is really addictive.

Turning off social media will give you peace of mind and it will cause you to be more productive.  If you had to un-hook from social media please leave your comments down below.

How To Lose Money And Go Broke.

There are many ways to lose money and go broke but if we listen to other people's stories we can learn from them and prevent the same things from happening to us.  We have to train ourselves to think differently about money.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

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Hello, everyone.  This is not a question and answers session but something that has happened in my personal life at one time or another.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

I was involved with this man many, many, years ago.  He was very self-centered and was only looking for a way to advance his dreams by using women.  He was very attractive and he knew it. 

 He played the game of pretending to be in love with me to accomplish everything that he wanted.  His caresses and his tender kisses were something out of this world.

After a while, I caught on to his schemes and I was finished with him.  For some reason he felt that after all, I had been through, he had a right to try to re-enter my life.

  He didn't realize that this lady had in fact moved on and no longer had feelings to give him a chance.  He didn't have sense enough to have enough pride to not approach me again.

The moral of this story is, never let anyone take you for granted.  If you hurt me once, you will hurt me again.  I don't owe you even a conversation with your sob story of how your life didn't turn out the way you expected.

  Hold your head up high and quickly say no to his advances and keep it moving because you know that he hasn't changed and if he did, let him be a better person for somebody else.  

Sometimes it isn't worth it to give second chances.  Guarding your heart is one of the best gifts that God will give you if you will just listen to him and follow his leading you will have a better result.

Intuition is there for a reason and if you had listened before, you would not be carrying this scar to your heart and your soul. 

 So, his life is in shambles, it is not your fault or your problem.

Let him straighten his own mess and he will be a better person for it.

Should I Let My Daughter Go To The Movies With Her Friends?

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Anonymous Question:  Hello, Sasha, My daughter wants to go out with friends to the movies and then out to eat.  I trust her friends but their older brother who is 27, like my fifteen-year-old daughter, and she told me she didn't feel comfortable with him in the past.  He makes little comments about her looks and her body shape, he would be the one driving them around.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  I would not let my daughter go out with friends to the movies when you already know that their brother likes your daughter because his infatuation with your daughter is not appropriate at all.  See if her friend's parents will let you be the chaperone and if not, let your daughter go out with her friends where you have personally met their parents and other family members.  You cannot afford to be too lax when it comes to your children.

Why Are You Willing To Be His Side Chick?

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I hear women all the time bragging about taking someone's husband or being in a relationship with a man who has numerous women.  I really had to think and see what they are getting out of this kind of relationship.

 Some women have even said that they don't want to be with the man all the time so they choose this kind of relationship because it is flexible; when they don't want to be bothered they know he will go to his wife or the other side chick.

  There are a lot of women going with older men to get them to finance their lifestyle and they really are not attracted to this person but they are in it to get what they get.

What You Don't Realize

This man is using you for sex and sometimes for your money, he just wants you around to stroke his ego and when he is tired of dealing with you, he will go to his other woman or his wife, you are just a temporary fix for his sexual appetite.

He complains about his wife, but he is not making a move to leave her because it is obvious, that he really loves her but he is no good and he really doesn't want to ruin their relationship.

He has kids with numerous women and you don't require much because you know as his side chick you are not going to receive much from him because he is paying a lot of child support or he is ducking the mothers to avoid paying child support.

This jerk is using you as a shoulder to cry on when things are not good at home and you let him come and stay with you a few days and then he is back home with the so-called miserable wife that he is so unhappy with.

A lot of times he doesn't want to be seen out with you because he is dating so many women.

This guy is in and out of jail and he needs you to be his support system when he gets out of jail.  He doesn't care anything about you, you are just a safety net.


You Are Worth More Than This Ladies!

When you are dating a new man, try to see where he is living and who he is living with and ask questions because sometimes a man will tell you directly where he is coming from but there are others that will lie constantly.

 If you catch this man in a bunch of lies when you are first dating, the lies will only get worse and you will find yourself in a relationship that is difficult and it will not lead to anything worthwhile.