Frenemies and their motives.

Frenemies and their motives.


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Frenemies are people who pretend to be your friend when they really hate you.  They are extremely jealous of you and your accomplishments and will undermine you at every turn.

In the past, I have had friends like this and you try to be a real friend and even keep the peace, but it gets tiring after a while.  They never were happy for me, and some talked about me behind my back and attempted to use me.

I was always in their corner and tried to be the best friend that I could, but I got the total opposite in return.  It is easy to spot a frenemy because they will force their way into your life, and they are very kind at first until they get closer to you and gain your trust.

Some of these frenemies will get close to you so they can get closer to the man in your life in an attempt to ruin your romantic relationship.

These people will try to put you down while smiling in your face or acting as if they got your back. The best way to deal with a frenemy is to know the signs and stay away from them.  It is very easy to spot them.

You ask them how your outfit looks and they will just shrug and say nothing or say " that outfit would look better on me".  Some will even mimic you by trying to wear the same clothes or hairstyles you do.

Some of them will try to undermine you at your place of work to get your position if your position is higher than theirs.  Stealing your close friends and talking about you is their modus operandi.

If you get married before they dom they will act like they are happy but you can see the disappointment in their eyes.

Frenemies can be any age and they are dangerous! They are so consumed by your life when they should be living their own.

I Faced Racial Discrimination On My Job!

I Faced Racial Discrimination On My Job!


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First off, I am not a person who will blame everything on racial discrimination. Today, I was thinking about a time I was discriminated against by my employer.

Many years ago I used to work as an Administrative Assistant for an agency that helps poor, minority, and disenfranchised people.  A lot of these people were in fact homeless.

My boss seemed like she was friendly and I thought she had a heart of gold.  Her agency was very well known in the community, and she really did help clients get housing, jobs, and food.

I was given my assignments to do for the day, and I flipped the papers over, and it had racist words on the back that pertained to black people.  At first, I thought that someone else in the office had done this.

Each and every time I saw these words on the back of my work assignments it really sickened me.  I never said anything because I needed my job.

My boss constantly smiled at me and was kind, but I knew she had a problem with black people as a race.

I didn't stay in this job very long because I could not deal with all the discrimination I was facing.

Another employee told me that they were going through the same thing, and it is sad.

Make sure you research online the steps that it takes to lodge a discrimination lawsuit if this has happened to you.  Racial discrimination has no place in the workforce!

(Men) Top Don'ts In A Relationship.

(Men) Top Don'ts In A Relationship.


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Hello Gentlemen, these are tips for men to stop doing these things in their relationships.

1. If your girlfriend doesn't feel well, don't come over because she doesn't want any company.
2. If your girl is cooking expensive dishes, such as; shrimp, lobster, and oxtails.  "I Love Oxtails" do not show up with any of your friends unless she specifically invites them.
3. Do not absolutely, do not come to her house with extra clothes (trying to move in on the sly) because she didn't ask you to move in.
4. Do not kiss her if your breath smells bad.
5. Do not show up at her house late if she told you to come by 7pm, do not come at 11pm.
6. Do not come to her house with five of your kids if she didn't ask you to.
7. Don't keep the toilet seat up because she hates that.
8. Do not text someone while you are at her house. (this is disrespectful.)
9. Please do not avoid calling her for three weeks and then just show up at her house unannounced.
10. Do not have her thinking you are going to marry her if you do not intend to.

These rules are very easy to follow and she will love you for being considerate.  Please leave comments if you would like to leave even more tips.

She Forgot She Was A Child (Very Short Story)

She forgot she was a child.

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 This is one of my short stories and I hope you enjoy it. I like to post them from time to time.

Lena was barely eleven-years-old and she carried the world on her shoulders.  Many times she was scared to smile and people thought she had such a hard exterior.

Lena was wise beyond her years, but she yearned to be free to live like a child because she forgot that she was a child.  Lena was a great student despite what she was going through and she excelled in everything she put her mind to.

She wasn't as hard as people thought she was because, every night, her pillow held her tears and her secrets, in fact, she was very afraid of her future. So she prayed, and prayed, that God would intervene.

God did intervene but it took such a long time. She never gave up her faith and I believe it carried her a long way.  Lena is a nurturer and it is what she is made of. She cares so much and always wants to help out.

Years passed and Lena became a woman, all the pain and inner scars taught her to be strong and it also taught her about forgiveness.  She is now happy and she has the gift to counsel others who have been through what she went through.

This young lady also learned that you are in charge of your own happiness and she refused to wallow in self-pity, Yes, her life was not ideal but with God's help she changed it into what she wanted it to be.

The moral of this short story is to never give up and excel in spite of your difficulties and lean on your faith and it will get you through.

Young Lady Has Been Having Babies Since She Was Thirteen, Now On Her Tenth Child

Young Lady Has Been Having Babies Since She Was Thirteen, Now On Her Tenth.
 
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I saw a young lady today, and she started having babies when she was Thirteen years old.  She is under thirty-five years old, and she has ten children.

She is a nice-looking young lady, and I cannot understand how this syndrome started because that is what it is.  What happened to her to make her think that she needs ten kids?

What tragedy started this, and why is she continuing to think this way and make it harder for her to work in a career she loves? Maybe she just loves children but I don't think that it is normal for a woman to do this at such a young age.

I believe her oldest child is an adult already and I hope that she has a different mindset than her mom.  I love children, and I think they are a blessing from God, but it isn't a lot you can offer your kids when you have too many children.

I wonder did her mom try to intervene and she still did not listen.  I saw one of the fathers of her children many years ago, and frankly, he was very childish and doesn't appear like he is serious about life.

Please don't waste your time having babies with these men who get you pregnant and are not willing to help you financially and otherwise.

Even if a man would be willing to love and provide for you, there is only so much he can do with ten kids in the family.

Having a lot of babies at a young age isn't cute, and honestly, I don't know her religious beliefs but she is not being a good mother by having so many children.

She cannot work because she has so many children, and no one will care for the kids she can work with.  Heck, it doesn't even pay for her to work because she will never make enough money to provide for these children.

I would love to see some programs put into place for young teen moms to prevent another out-of-wedlock birth, and to tell these young ladies, what will happen if they have too many children.

Her family failed her, the system failed her, and she failed herself. I wish the best for the young lady and hope by some miracle, she will find the love and self-esteem that could have prevented this.

Talk to, love and support your young daughters and surround them with positive images so they won't only see themselves as a mom at a very young age.

(Video) How To Stop Being A Doormat

Stop Being A Doormat.

Sometimes it is easier said than done but some of us have lived the lifestyle of being agreeable and taking the backseat when we should have been more present and expressed what we are really feeling.  There are people who are a doormat and don't even know that they are because this is what they have seen in their life.

This video below is very pertinent and an eye-opener and it gives insight on how to change this behavior.

Life Is Not All Flowers ( daily life problems)

Life Is Not All Flowers (daily life problems)

Life is beautiful but sometimes things can come to knock you off your feet and cause confusion and a lot of us women know that most problems fall into our plate, so to speak.

We carry such loads and burdens and people don't realize that it can be overwhelming at times.  We have to be everything to everybody and it is hard to fathom that this can take its toll on our health, mentally and physically.

The fact is, we are the ones who need the pep talk, the pat on the back, and just a listening ear. The most common daily problems can be avoided when you just put your pride down and ask for help or put some of your tasks off for another day if possible.

Don't be scared to say no to some family members who overwhelm you with their issues, you have to step back sometimes.

Turning off your phone and not taking any calls unless it is an extreme emergency is sometimes necessary to take a break and take the time to do some of the things that you love.

I love to plan shopping trips alone so I can think and just enjoy my own company.  This gives me the time to relax and even have lunch alone and I truly enjoy it.

Learn to be assertive and let people know where you are coming from to keep from making excuses and don't let people make you free bad for not helping them.

Please don't let anyone stress you out because stress can cause disease and life is too short.  Find your happy place and live your best life.