~Karma comes calling. Don't let it fall on your doorstep~

I decided to do this post in response to the news of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are divorcing after two years of being married.  Everyone is so surprised but I really am not because of the way she got Brad Pitt.

Ladies, we have to be careful how we get a man and if possible make sure that he isn't married to someone else while dating. 

 Men lie all the time and sometimes we don't know but if you are knowingly sleeping with a man who is married, you are asking for disaster, and if you are the wife and your husband is stepping out on you; you will have to make a decision whether your marriage is worth saving.  The more you argue and fight the other women, the man will not stop cheating on you.

He likes the drama and all the attention that he is getting.  You must have an honest conversation with him and give him a warning about the outcome if he doesn't stop and be ready to stick with your decision even if it hurts to do so.

Handle this situation like a Queen, the way that Jennifer Aniston handled it.  It does not mean that you will not cry or feel like your world is falling apart but just know in your heart that karma will make an appearance and will fight your battle and the person who had an affair with your husband will remember the pain that she caused you. 

 I am also very proud of Robin Thicke's ex-wife Paula Patton and how she handled her situation. She never bashed Robin Thicke in the media but instead, she royally walked with her head held high and went on with her life.

Always remember that God said that he would fight all of our battles.

Should I Have A Baby At Age 34?

Should I Have A Baby At Age 34?

Anonymous Question;  I had a baby at fourteen years old.  I am now thirty-four years old and my boyfriend wants a baby.  I would like to have another one but I am scared about starting over again at my age.

SashaMoniqueTalks:  Hello there!  I have a very quick answer for you.  These days having a baby isn't a big deal at thirty-four.  You are still young.  If you have the time needed and your finances are together, I don't see no reason why you can't have another child.  You are in fact blessed because your child would have a much older sibling to help out.

How To Deal With A Man Who Will Not Commit.

How To Deal With A Man Who Will Not Commit

Dating is hard, very hard and most women date with the expectation that one day they will find a good man and get married.  Sometimes we come across men who will date you and may even like to be in a relationship but he isn't interested in marriage.  

The man may have all the qualities that you would like your mate to have.  You ask him whether he would like to get married one day and sometimes he will tell you that he would like too many years from now and other times, he will flat out tell you that he cannot see himself ever getting married.  What should you do?

Some of us have been in this situation and I can tell you that a man will give clues about whether he would like to be in a committed relationship or not.  He could be a person who has been single for many years and has never married or a single father who never talks about marriage or talks about it in a negative way. 

 The first thing you should do if you are a person who wants to marry one day is to ask the man and if he says that he doesn't ever want to get married, then you have to respect his wishes but you also must let him know that you would like to be married one day and tell him that you will not be able to pursue this relationship further because you cannot waste your time.

Do not try to get him to change his mind because men usually tell us the truth or show us the truth and we won't accept it because we feel that we can change his mind.  You can never change a man and what you can do is work on yourself and only date men who are equally excited about getting married one day.

If you have been with a man for a few years and he says that he will marry you someday but it is taking years, then you must break off that relationship because you are wasting your time and you could meet a man and he may marry you within a year or two. 

 Stop letting these men set dates and timelines in your life and wasting your time.  You are attractive and you have a lot to offer.  If you are firm in your decision, the right man will come along and be happy to marry you.  

My Boyfriend is sixteen years older than me.

Anonymous Question:  Hello SashaMonique,  I just turned 27 years old and I have been married but it didn't work out.  I started dating a man who is 16 years older than me and I am not really attracted to this man but he treats me well. 

I have been through a lot in my life so I decided that I will make myself happy with the person who is interested in making me happy. 

 I forgot to add that I have a five-year-old daughter by my ex.  My parents do not know yet about this man but I will tell them soon.  I live on my own so I feel that this is okay.  What are your thoughts regarding this situation?


SashaMoniqueTalks:  This is a good question.  Did you try dating men in your own age bracket before dating this man?  You stated that you have been married and it didn't work out and I think this is the reason you have decided on dating this older man. 

 Honestly, I feel that if you are happy, keep dating him and see where the relationship goes. The problem with dating someone older, you will not have a lot in common with a forty-three-year-old and the relationship will get stale very fast. 

 You said that you are not attracted to this man and you didn't say why but this could be a problem. There are older men who are dogs too so you still have to be careful.  Tell your parents, they will probably be upset but it is your life and you are grown.

Some bad boy's do get married.

I just ran across this video of Ray J  and Princess Love's wedding dance.  For many years it seemed like he couldn't be faithful and I wonder if Whitney Houston had lived, would they be married.  A man will never be perfect just like we aren't. We have to see what is in a man's heart and soul and if he is coming from a good place then you may have found your soul mate

Where do I get my questions from?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen:  I was asked by someone where I get my questions from on this blog.  The questions come from people who send questions to my email address and also people in my private life.

 If you would like for me to answer a question for you, I can answer it privately without posting it to my blog or if you are okay with me posting it, I will not reveal anything that will identify you.  I will not post any questions that are highly sensitive and I cannot give you any advice regarding your health.  Please don't ask me questions that are insulting to someone else.

Advice To Baby Mama's And The Other Woman.

Image Courtesy Pixabay.

I decided to address this subject because of things I have seen women do in the past when involved with a married man.  If you find yourself doing these things please stop it and go on with your life.



What You Should Stop Doing:

1. Stop calling the wife's house asking for her husband.
2. Stop stalking your boyfriend's wife because it will not help your situation at all.  It shows just how weak you are.  You are secretly jealous of her because you want her position.
3. You get pregnant thinking that you can keep him.  He doesn't care how many babies you have.  If he wants to stay with his wife, this will not help you at all.
4. You are friends with the wife and you hang around her house every day so that you can be around her husband.  This is the sickest thing that I have seen women do.  It shows how cruel and sick you are.  She is his wife and you will never be her.  This makes you look really crazy.
5. You call and harass her on her job so she can get fired.  If you get her fired from her job, the more the husband will have to spend his money taking care of her and the family.  That means that you get nothing.
6. You send a friend request to her friends and family on Facebook.  You are so obsessed with this woman and you just want to know what she is doing at every second of the day and you want to get information from her friends.
7. You wait on her street to see her coming and going.  You keep stalking her because you know that she is a better woman than you and she is also much prettier.
8. You make love to her husband in her bed.  Lady, this shows how wicked you are and these are things that a woman without any class will do.
9. You try to find a way to be around your boyfriend's children.  This won't do you any good and it will make his children hate you in the long run.  
10. You make your boyfriend leave his wife and children and move in with you.  No matter how much you make love to this man, if he wants to be with his wife, he will be with her.  It shows what kind of person he is and it definitely tells a story of the home wrecker that you are.

Ladies, these men are out for what they can get, and if you make yourself available to be the side piece the man will never respect you and you will have to pay for all the things that you did to break up a home.  Should you get this man to leave his wife and marry you, he will never respect you and he will surely do the same thing to you or worst.

Find your own man because being a sidepiece is really nothing!