Being Needy Is A Bad Trait And Character Flaw!

Being Needy Is A Bad Trait And Character Flaw!



There are so many people in this world who have the skills and the opportunity to make something out of themselves but there is something inside that tells them that they cannot accomplish anything so they think that the world owes them all the things that they cannot get.

I have to say that there is a population of people that actually need some help because of age or disability but it still doesn't give a person a right to attach themselves to your pocketbook because God will help those who help themselves.

You may think that you do not have control over your circumstance but you do; you have a mind that is powerful to create and give you the answers that you need, and all you have to do is put forth some effort.



If you cannot work, try to do the things that you can do and there will be someone out there who will help you get to the place where you want to be, but if you sit by expecting people to be your savior it will not help you at all.

Surround yourself with people who care about moving forward and are not takers because takers are distractors and they will wear you down.

Work on yourself and concentrate on what you can bring to the table and share yourself if you cannot share anything else.

Try not to feel sorry for yourself because we live in a world that rewards good behavior and our faithful attempts at bettering ourselves will not be void.


I have heard of people who come to America with just Twenty dollars and they fight and find a way to make it in this country because they are hungry and know that they have to make life in this country work.  They cannot afford to sit around and hope and dream of a change; they force the change.

If they can make it, you can, it depends on you making a change and making some careful decisions.  Learn how to save money on some things that you can do without so you can have a little extra money to change your life.  You may say, " I don't have much", well that man or woman who came to this country had a lot less than you.

You can do better and you know you can because living your dream is only possible if you depend on yourself and do for yourself.

A handout is only temporary but a hand up will take you so much further and when people see you trying, they will step in and help without you even asking for it.

Love is gone so what am I going to do?

Love is gone so what am I going to do?


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It is not easy going through a breakup.  Spending time alone is rough unless you are a loner.  Finding new things to do and places to go alone can be so hard.

I have personally decided that I will remain alone for a while and concentrate on health and work on my career.  I am a  loner at heart and I personally enjoy my own company.

We have all these dating apps and websites and finding love is harder than ever.  Being alone is the best time to nurture all the things that you let go of when you were in a relationship.

I have decided to let love go but you don't have to, get yourself ready for new love and another adventure but take the time to find out exactly what you want in your relationship and some of the things that you would like to work on in your life to prevent another breakup.

Knowledge is power and although we cannot prevent some things that contribute to a breakup and a divorce, you can get to know yourself and what you will and will not put up with.  Maybe you will learn to be happy with your journey in life.

Taking trips and making plans are definite ways to get over your failed relationship.  Life is not over!
Find outings that are geared towards single folks, not to find another lover but to find new friends who know where all the hip and happening places are.

If you have let yourself go, now is the time to step up on your hygiene and fashion game.  Be you and be fabulous in your own right.

Can You Escape The Hood By Doing Hood Things?

Can you escape the hood by doing hood things?

This morning I was thinking about all the people I know who tried to escape the hood by lying, stealing and hustling.

These folks thought they had all the answers and did not listen to anyone.  Years ago they were the best dressed, very popular, and drove the hottest cars.  It looked like they had the world in the palm of their hands.

 I have run into some of these people and I was very surprised that some of them are homeless.  They outwitted themselves and now they didn't have anyone to turn to.

Fast money is a fast death and you cannot escape your environment by doing foul things.  You may escape for a short time but you will not sleep well at night and you will have to constantly look over your shoulder.

You will not be able to trust your friends because when you are living this way, you really don't have any friends and you will lose self-respect.

Taking shortcuts will lead to problems further down the road.

What Exactly Is Talking White Or Acting White?

What Exactly Is Talking White Or Acting White?


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There are a lot of misconceptions regarding African American people who talk proper English.  They are often called Oreo's, talking white, sell-outs and etc.

Some people grow up in different environments or they are exposed to people of different races.  I have some in my family who so-called "talk white" and they are not trying to sell out at all.

My family members are very proud African Americans and many are. You do not know what people go through who grow up in mostly white neighborhoods, you will definitely not forget who you are and where you come from, that is for sure.

We have a tendency to put our people in a box that they don't belong in just because of your uneasiness.  It is no disgrace to use proper English.

All of us are not the same, talk to a person so you can get to know them and you can build great friendships.  It is unfair to make judgments based on a manner of speech.

Judge people by their character only!

Top Five Ways To Date Yourself.

Top five ways to date yourself.


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When you are not in a relationship it is easy to sit around and mope.  A lot of times you will not take care of yourself and your appearance.  Not being in a relationship doesn't mean that you just give up on life.


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There are many ways to date yourself, to make you feel special and loved.  Sometimes people notice when you do not treat yourself well and they view you as unattractive. Make it a point to date yourself because you will draw more quality people into your life.

So here are the top five ways to date yourself!

1. Go to a fabulous restaurant and order whatever you want and sit there and savor every bite.
2. Take yourself on a trip alone and meet people and treat yourself to the best massages around and pamper yourself.
3. Take a relaxing bath and put on your favorite music, get out and put on the prettiest nightgown that you own and eat some quality chocolates and watch  ("Breakfast At Tiffany's.)
4. Order a beautiful necklace or ring and use it as your statement piece.
5. Go get your hair, nails, and feet done, and then go to a photoshoot and take your best picture.

Learn how to be happy with yourself and you will enjoy yourself with or without a mate.

Sir, Why Are You So Negative???

Sir, Why Are You So Negative??


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Recently, I was at an event and it was a married couple where the husband said something very negative to his wife, and I thought I was going to fall out of my chair.

I will not repeat what he said, but it was a reference to her looks and her as a woman.  She didn't say anything back to him because obviously, it is something that he normally does.

Mind you, this man is not Prince Charming himself and he should never say that to his wife.  On the other hand, his wife is beautiful, she has large doe eyes and they are really striking.

I am quite sure his wife spoke to him at home about this. What I am going to say regarding this is don't do this to your wife or any other person, have some respect and some class.

Mrs, please keep yourself up because when you don't, men notice.  It still doesn't excuse his behavior, but don't let him see you slipping.

Fix yourself up, and if he doesn't improve, then maybe you should consider making permanent changes in your marriage.

Frenemies and their motives.

Frenemies and their motives.


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Frenemies are people who pretend to be your friend when they really hate you.  They are extremely jealous of you and your accomplishments and will undermine you at every turn.

In the past, I have had friends like this and you try to be a real friend and even keep the peace, but it gets tiring after a while.  They never were happy for me, and some talked about me behind my back and attempted to use me.

I was always in their corner and tried to be the best friend that I could, but I got the total opposite in return.  It is easy to spot a frenemy because they will force their way into your life, and they are very kind at first until they get closer to you and gain your trust.

Some of these frenemies will get close to you so they can get closer to the man in your life in an attempt to ruin your romantic relationship.

These people will try to put you down while smiling in your face or acting as if they got your back. The best way to deal with a frenemy is to know the signs and stay away from them.  It is very easy to spot them.

You ask them how your outfit looks and they will just shrug and say nothing or say " that outfit would look better on me".  Some will even mimic you by trying to wear the same clothes or hairstyles you do.

Some of them will try to undermine you at your place of work to get your position if your position is higher than theirs.  Stealing your close friends and talking about you is their modus operandi.

If you get married before they dom they will act like they are happy but you can see the disappointment in their eyes.

Frenemies can be any age and they are dangerous! They are so consumed by your life when they should be living their own.