What were your plans before the pandemic?

 

    What were your plans before the pandemic?

For all of us, the pandemic hit us like a Mack truck.  We had hopes of going on trips, opening a new business, or even getting married.  It has caused us to rethink everything that we had planned to do.  In my area, I had seen signs of new businesses that were slated to open, but they were never able to open.

I know a few people who were supposed to get married this year, and every one of them put things on hold. I suggested that maybe they should have a very small ceremony and then have the wedding of their dreams later on.  I wish I never said that because they looked at me like I had five heads.

What I am getting at in this post is the fact that we will have to learn how to live to the best of our ability with the hand that we have been dealt.   You can save up your money so when this pandemic is over, you will be able to take your dream trip. 

 If you really want to get married, you can get married right now.  It is not safe to have big weddings right now, and it will be a while before we will be able to. Be creative and step out of your comfort zone.   If you were not able to open that physical business, you can still open a different type of business online. The pandemic caused so many new online businesses to emerge.  

Some hair stores in my area were closed for a very long time, and I hope that they will consider adding an online store in addition to their physical stores.  This would allow the employees to still make money even though they cannot open their stores.

If you were living in a location where the rent is very high, maybe you can consider moving to an area that is known to be safe but has cheaper rent. I am even thinking about doing this.

Thank God that we live in a virtual world where we are not totally crippled by the pandemic.  Whatever plans that you have can be recreated at another date and time.  Stay safe and protect your loved ones, and when this thing is over, have the biggest celebration ever!  

At-Home Teeth Whitening. Does it work?

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Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitener
The first thing people will notice about you when you smile is your teeth. However, it may be very embarrassing if your teeth are not in good condition. What you need to know is that your teeth may become yellow after some time due to various reasons.

 Even if visiting your dentist to get your teeth whitened may seem to be the best idea, it may be a bit expensive and very inconvenient for those with a busy schedule.

If you are searching for a good product and the best solution to whiten your teeth, Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitener is one of the best products that will give you excellent results.  With this product, you will be able to whiten your teeth in the comfort of your home.

What is Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitener?
Smile Brilliant is among the most popular products that are used for teeth whitening. Unlike other products, this one is backed by scientific knowledge.

You will find this product in two packages which are the non-sensitive and sensitive packages. These packages allow you to choose a teeth-whitening gel according to sensitivity.
Ingredients
This product comprises the following;
Menthol
Carbamide peroxide
carbomer
Glycerin
EDTA

What is included in the package?
The package comprises custom-fitted teeth whitening trays that are handcrafted by dental lab technicians. It also includes the following;

Professional lab service- which receives your impressions. After this, they create a similar model of your teeth which comes in a custom-fitted tray. The finished custom-fitted whitening trays include 1 lower and 1 upper tray.

2 impression trays- These are combined with impression materials to create a mold
3 sets of impression materials- These ones enable you to make your own impressions.

Three-way postage between you and the lab.
Professional teeth whitening gel and a desensitizing gel.

How does it work?
All you need to do is add the professional teeth whitening gel to the trays. After this, you can now wear them and allow the gel to work.

 You should try it for about 45 days if you want to get excellent results. In case you do not get the expected results after 45 days, the company provides a full refund.

Pros
Pocket-friendly
FDA approved
Instructions are very clear to understand
The process is easy to follow
Made in the USA
Prompt customer service

Cons
Time-consuming

Conclusion
If you are searching for a reliable teeth-whitening kit, Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitener will be a great option. Apart from making your teeth white, it also removes stains between your teeth.

Why are you so sad around Christmas time? (Living with domestic violence)

                            

 Why are you so sad around Christmas time?

I can tell you that living in an abusive marriage or relationship gets worse during the holiday season.
There is so much tension in the air because you may have financial issues or it could be a time when your spouse could be drinking more than usual.  You will find that you can be blamed for just about anything.

Your abusive spouse will find fault with just about anything (the kids, your hair, or just you being around.)  If your spouse is cheating, he will find a way to start a fight or an argument so he will have an excuse to leave the home to be with his mistress.

You may think that you are hiding your pain but everyone will see that Christmas is a hard time for you. Keeping "the secret" somehow makes you feel that it is not as bad as it is.  What people will not tell you is, that being in an abusive marriage is shameful to the person who is dealing with it.

Many times you wonder why this person would pick you for this type of treatment, and you will also ask God why???????


Image of snowflake ornaments, courtesy of Pixabay

Many times, domestic abuse starts with something in your past.  A time when you have been slapped or told to shut up and berated by a parent or another adult.  You may have seen your parents get abused, and even though you knew this behavior was reprehensible, you allowed this pattern to show up in your life because it was something that you were used to.

If you are reading this post and you have severe sadness during Christmas and you have been abused; it is time to take action.  Find a way to save your life and your sanity.  It will not be easy, but let me tell you, it will be worth it.

I escaped over thirty years ago.  I still suffer from trauma from what I went through.  Christmas has never been easy for me, but I am here and I am blessed.  Spending precious moments with my family without arguing and being abused is a gift that I can never thank God enough for.

Free yourself!  Let this be the last year that you are scared of what this person will do to you.  Live, live, live!  Take back control of your life!  The best is yet to come!

When is this grown man going to get off his butt and get a job?

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Hello everyone, I haven't been here for a while but I just wanted to touch on this subject.  For many years, I have witnessed so many ladies going out to work every day, but a lazy man has taken up residence and has fooled you into thinking that he cannot get a job or he has nowhere to go.

Did you ever think that he had somewhere to live before he started seeing you?  Why have you let this man come into your home around you and your children, and he won't work?  He has so many excuses such as; he doesn't have any transportation, nobody will hire him, he has a criminal record, or he cannot take the bus.

You get up every day whether you are tired or ill, and you work, and when you come back home, he is still in the same spot watching TV and eating your kid's cereal and all of the other food.  He cheats on you, and you give him spending money.  A grown man taking money from a woman is quite frankly, disgusting. 

This man is so-called "finding himself" while you do all the work to maintain a home.  Have you ever thought, "When is this grown man going to get off his butt and get a job?"  I am sure that you have, but why have you allowed this?  

You allow it because you feel that you can change him or you think that he will leave you.  You will actually gain more if you just let him go.  He hasn't brought anything to the table and he is blocking a good man from coming your way.


Image of man, courtesy of Pixabay

Ladies, a real man will not let you struggle and carry the load by yourself.  Everybody has a role in a relationship.  We do not have to continue to be a strong person in the relationship.  It is not healthy ladies. 

 You are running on empty without any support.  Learn to say no when these men first approach you about moving into your home.  If he is out to use you, he will disappear and you will be able to distinguish who the right person is for you.  Good luck to you ladies!  The best is yet to come!

Are there women who like their men to be more feminine?

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Hello everyone,  I received a great question that was sent to me anonymously and I am very anxious to give my input regarding this question.

Question:  Are there women who like their men to be more feminine?

SashaMoniqueTalks: So many women like a man who has facial features like a woman, and a man who is quite androgynous.  The perfect persons who would fit this example would be the singer's Prince, Michael Jackson, Boy George, and Adam Lambert.

 There have been rumors of them being gay or bisexual, but I know one thing, there are so many women who are crazy about these men.  Why?  Because they are comfortable in their own skin, and they have a look that is so relatable to women.

You can always count on them to be well-dressed for the occasion and they command loads of attention. Some women do not have a problem with their men wearing makeup and nail polish.

I have known many women who were married, and some still are, to a man who is considered feminine.  As long as the person who is dating or married to a feminine man is okay with it, there is no reason for anyone else to judge.


Image of man with yellow glasses, courtesy of Pixabay

A feminine-acting or looking man can steal your heart with his gentle touch or his gentle ways.  So the answer to you is, absolutely, some women like their men to be more feminine.

What does independence and being independent means to you?

The word (independent) has been thrown around for many years.  It means a lot to me because my mom has always instilled the values of independence.  She let us know from a young age that we had to be independent and that no man was going to take care of us.  Honestly, the thought was a bit scary to me but I could always hear her words "Be independent."

I am independent, but there are times that I think that I am so independent that I will not let anyone do anything for me and this could be a problem.

Independence is standing on your own, and a lot of times it means being alone.  There are so many decisions that you are responsible for.  What I like about being and staying independent is that I am in charge of my life.  I do not have to wait for someone to control me or my actions.  I can live anywhere that I want and come and go as I please.

You see the tree behind me?  It is standing alone holding up its own branches.  A tree is powerful because it provides shade and is very essential to the quality of air that is around us.   A woman is very powerful because she brings forth life.  She usually nurtures her family and her hard work shows.

Being independent is having a strong mind, which means that you do not go with the crowd, you are a leader!  Trusting God is a sure way that you can remain independent because he will strengthen and bless you, so you can do all the things that you set your heart and mind to do.  He is the only one that you can truly trust.  When you are quiet, and still, he will lead you in the right direction that a man cannot.

Stay grounded and trust your intuition!  

*Attention! I would love to answer questions about love and relationships on my blog*

Are you going through a dilemma and you need some advice?  I am here to answer your questions on my blog.  I am not a Doctor or Psychiatrist but I am a woman who has lived through many things and overcame them all and I can give you great advice.
  
You can send all the questions to https://sashamoniquetalks@gmail.com and submit all of your questions.
You can remain anonymous and I will protect your identity.